Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi all,
I'd like to hear the stories of how people met:
Thanks in advance.
H.
PersonAnon said:Calm, loving, tolerant, supportive.
Thanks for sharing PA, It's cheered me up hearing all your ups and downs and the length of time you have been together and that you connected on "all" levels. Everything you have written is what I dream of in a partner. I think it's rare to have that kind of love and commitment but it is possible and therefore I remain hopeful. :-)
No marriage is all violins and violets, but I'm very lucky, and very aware of that.
Not a cliche: I'm lucky and I know that. Nothing is all perfection, but it's whether you can deal with difficulties together that counts.
40 years on I still think she's beautiful, incredible and amazing, and I wouldn't want to be with anyone else.
We've covered a lot of ground, together, geographically and in every other sense, and we're a pretty good team.
Yes, remain hopeful, H. It ain't easy. My wife had a failed marriage, and I'd come out of a truly horrible relationship that was slightly reminiscent of the 70s Clint Eastwood movie 'Play Misty For Me'. She didn't try to murder me (in the movie, Jessica Walters' character tries to kill Eastwood's), but ... well, stuff happened. Nowadays I'd be taking out restraining orders and the word 'stalking' would be used.
So it took a while to get it right.
PersonAnon said:'Play Misty For Me'.
Yes, the reality is that relationships take work and commitment from both partners. Perhaps the beginning feels like rainbows and fairytales but ultimately it's when folks can work through their baggage together as a team, that's precious and special.
I understand what you mean about the Glen Close and Clint Eastwood depiction of an obsessive relationship and I love that film. The first time I saw it, I knew there was trouble brewing when his character was naive enough to think he could have "a bit on the side" without emotional entanglement. I didn't anticipate that what happened would be as dark though and I still find it a disturbing but strangely fascinating movie!
We all have our past and ongoing challenges but I feel that finding someone who is willing and able to go on that journey with us makes life so much more meaningful. :-)