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Growing up lonely and trying to fit in and completely lost myself

Chris

Hi,

Anyone else grew up trying to fit in throughout their lives to the point where you have lost your self and dont accept yourself anymore?

I am aged 32 and have had alot of different jobs and never made friends with anyone. i have always tried to fit in and changed myself so i can be accpeted in society and felt like i have lived in a gold fish tank my whole life. the effects of this is not great as i really hate myself and hate people who do not understand me or accept me. as they trigger me. I  struggle to live in this mad world and search for acceptance try to get people to understand me, its also impacted my mental health so much on top of other things thats caused my mental health to be so bad.

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  • You are not alone. It is easy for anyone to feel lonely when they don't feel understood. It is also very common in NTs and I don't know many NTs who have friends through work. Most people seem to go to work and come home without making any friends there. Perhaps a better place to make friends would be through hobbies and interests? Another idea might be to become a volunteer somwhere or start a course. I got a dog and joined a local dog 'buddy facebook group and met a friend through that (even though the goal was for my dog to meet a friend not me). 

    Try not to look for anything too deep initially. Most NTs could find Aspies intense. Mostly it's just small talk and light hearted conversation,,,,.. unless you have known someone for a while.

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  • You are not alone. It is easy for anyone to feel lonely when they don't feel understood. It is also very common in NTs and I don't know many NTs who have friends through work. Most people seem to go to work and come home without making any friends there. Perhaps a better place to make friends would be through hobbies and interests? Another idea might be to become a volunteer somwhere or start a course. I got a dog and joined a local dog 'buddy facebook group and met a friend through that (even though the goal was for my dog to meet a friend not me). 

    Try not to look for anything too deep initially. Most NTs could find Aspies intense. Mostly it's just small talk and light hearted conversation,,,,.. unless you have known someone for a while.

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