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Growing up lonely and trying to fit in and completely lost myself

Chris

Hi,

Anyone else grew up trying to fit in throughout their lives to the point where you have lost your self and dont accept yourself anymore?

I am aged 32 and have had alot of different jobs and never made friends with anyone. i have always tried to fit in and changed myself so i can be accpeted in society and felt like i have lived in a gold fish tank my whole life. the effects of this is not great as i really hate myself and hate people who do not understand me or accept me. as they trigger me. I  struggle to live in this mad world and search for acceptance try to get people to understand me, its also impacted my mental health so much on top of other things thats caused my mental health to be so bad.

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  • I relate to this. Most part I was called Flakey when I needed time for myself before interacting with people again. Instead of being asked how I was, people would assume. I didn't think much of it till I got to a point where I had no one. 

    As of now, I do have a close friend and a partner with a few other friends who are more understanding and know about boundaries.

    But it's now formed into trauma and I'm extremely careful with the people I meet nowadays. 

    The world is mad. But there are somethings that make it okay once in a while! 

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  • I relate to this. Most part I was called Flakey when I needed time for myself before interacting with people again. Instead of being asked how I was, people would assume. I didn't think much of it till I got to a point where I had no one. 

    As of now, I do have a close friend and a partner with a few other friends who are more understanding and know about boundaries.

    But it's now formed into trauma and I'm extremely careful with the people I meet nowadays. 

    The world is mad. But there are somethings that make it okay once in a while! 

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