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Struggles with England

Billy87

Just wondered, does anyone else think this is a particularly hard country to be autistic in?

I feel like the whole world is difficult for us but this country is, especially. There is the whole "stiff upper lip" thing and English reserve. It's all about not showing your emotions or how you feel. As an autistic person I can never read how other people feel so living in a place where people are actively trying not to show you how they feel makes it even harder. Also, I am a very emotional person but that seems to be frowned upon too.

I feel like people are so desperate to seem cool here so they never get excited about anything or show enthusiasm for anything. In other countries people seem to be less preocuppied with this and not afraid to be enthusiastic. 

To be honest, I don't really feel English even though I was born and spent my whole life here. I love German music, football, food and culture. I listen to German and Hungarian pop most of the time and I dream of living in Germany, Switzerland, Hungary or Scandanavia. 

Even in the Euros I supported Denmark and Hungary and almost pretended to support England to fit in 

Hope this doesnt offend anyone, I dont mean to steryotype or anything, just how I feel right now 

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  • No country is perfect, and no country of nearly 70 million people can satisfy all of them. 

    But in this country (unlike many others) you can protest,  voice your opinion, insult people, offend people, campaign for or against things, and vote. 

    If the police arrest you, you'll get a lawyer, and there are strict rules about how you are detained and for how long.  You'll get a trial, and if the case is big enough the media may cover it and publicise it; under the law, they can only be prevented from doing so in highly specific cases (eg national security), so justice is not only done, it is seen to be done (or at least, open to public scrutiny). 

    All these things happen within agreed parameters (so you can do most of them 'wihin reason').

    You can love who you want, marry who you want, there are minimum wages, an NHS which is free at the point of delivery, social services, welfare benefits, and more freedoms than most people in the world have. 

    There are limitations on all of this because we all have to live together, and you can't exercise your freedoms to the point that you are hurting someone else, but mostly they are reasonable. 

    Discrimination happens, because some humans are bigots, but it's generally illegal and often results in legal remedies. 

    We have criminals, but on the whole, the chances of being a victim of violent crime are much lower than in many other countries, and we have well resourced law enforcement so the criminals are often caught. 

    Our climate is reasonably temperate, without the extremes of many countries.

    Many of these things impact directly on the lives of autistic people. 

    All public services are under pressure, and there will always be compliants, but for all the faults, there are more freedoms and a greater level of 'safety net' for those in need than there are in most countries in the world.  

  • in reply to PersonAnon
    PersonAnon said:
    you can protest

    I heard that is going yo change soon ''due to covid requirements''

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