Struggles with England

Just wondered, does anyone else think this is a particularly hard country to be autistic in?

I feel like the whole world is difficult for us but this country is, especially. There is the whole "stiff upper lip" thing and English reserve. It's all about not showing your emotions or how you feel. As an autistic person I can never read how other people feel so living in a place where people are actively trying not to show you how they feel makes it even harder. Also, I am a very emotional person but that seems to be frowned upon too.

I feel like people are so desperate to seem cool here so they never get excited about anything or show enthusiasm for anything. In other countries people seem to be less preocuppied with this and not afraid to be enthusiastic.

To be honest, I don't really feel English even though I was born and spent my whole life here. I love German music, football, food and culture. I listen to German and Hungarian pop most of the time and I dream of living in Germany, Switzerland, Hungary or Scandanavia.

Even in the Euros I supported Denmark and Hungary and almost pretended to support England to fit in

Hope this doesnt offend anyone, I dont mean to steryotype or anything, just how I feel right now

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JuniperFromGallifrey over 4 years ago

There was a twitter thread about AS individuals who moved to other countries to cope. I'm too unemotional (apparently) to be an American, or incredibly emotional at the wrong time, about the wrong things, in the wrong space. Also accidentally spot far too much irony on a regular basis, which seems a bit lost to most there, and then took on my grandfathers more Scottish sense of humour when young, which also never fits. One is marginalised if you don't react appropriately wherever you are.

If you live somewhere else, others automatically expect you to be a bit different. It's then delightful & interesting! If Germany may be where you call home some day, perhaps it's a plan to pop into the works?
JuniperFromGallifrey over 4 years ago in reply to JuniperFromGallifrey

Very real things here:

Unknown said:
yanks are so overly happy and overly enthusiastic

We're expected as children, to SELL. To be extroverted sales reps. To be greedy and corrupt. If someone can, you can, anyone can. Which is why I'd suggest the orange mop was actually seen as a thing to revere. It's all so cringe-y and if you're neuro-divergent or introverted, it's not a country you'll thrive in.

I'm not sure if the lack of irony stems from the French or if there's just too many nationalities or IF irony is really a thing naturally predispositioned with individuals who can 'connect the dots', but sarcasm is definitely an accepted way of being obnoxiously whinge-y and I just find sarcasm truly dull no matter where I am.

Ritalin - on a side note is a substitute for allowing children proper time outside to play. Compare to Germany for primary schools. it's another thing I would love to see changed - not just how blind most of that country can be to autistic wired individuals.
I Sperg over 4 years ago in reply to JuniperFromGallifrey

I went to Florida once learning to fly, the school was rubbish so I quit the school and the second week of waiitng to fly home was made MUCH less tedious by the niceness of the locals. I'd loveto go back just to say thanks. When the yanks bought a company I worked at and sent their guys over, they were as bad as stereotypical americans ever are, but those florida people were good people..

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I Sperg over 4 years ago in reply to JuniperFromGallifrey

I went to Florida once learning to fly, the school was rubbish so I quit the school and the second week of waiitng to fly home was made MUCH less tedious by the niceness of the locals. I'd loveto go back just to say thanks. When the yanks bought a company I worked at and sent their guys over, they were as bad as stereotypical americans ever are, but those florida people were good people..

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