Finding everything difficult…

I've heard it said that during University you'll need to pick two: Schoolwork, Friendships, Job. No one can manage all 3 - or manage them well. I find it easy to cut out social relationships when under deadlines or on project-mode. And my clients will hear from me 4x per year, maybe. Every other year we might have lunch. There's a convention I try to get to every 1-3 years as well. I have one son and 3 close friendships. 2 of these individuals I don't see as they live far away, but we'll chat on occasion. 1 lives closer and we see each other but seldom. She's 2 hours by train. There are a wealth of individuals I might catch up with at the holidays or on occasion and a philosophy group I might attend every other week.  For a majority of people this isn't actually much and it took a long time to build those few but important friendships. I'm introverted, so it's fine.

From my perspective, the "social requirements" at this point in history will limit and suffocate even the Most Ambitious. I had to learn to not answer my phone/emails but on specific days per week. And also to teach others that I'm available on my time, not theirs (obviously, when I'm being paid by someone, that's the individual who is paying for me to be on their time and not mine). This is to say: Time is something one can never get back. Uninterrupted time is required to become skilled at anything and in Uni, I would steal ALL the time you can to invest it into learning and failing and becoming and small steps toward success in whatever you feel inclined toward. Note: massive singer-songwriters will be open about disconnecting from Social Media to focus on an album. This should be a set practice. Distractions, not failure, will kill any future successes (note that these can be small and seemingly insignificant like making the perfect cappuccino - 99% of our breakthroughs will be micro-successes)

I'm in my 40s and still struggle with emails. I will leave them for an hour - a week or sometimes for months depending on the subject matter. No one mentioned how incredibly horrifying my 'executive / administrative' skills were until the 4th time I was let go from a position requiring them in my mid 20's. And it's only come to light I'm on the Spectrum a few years ago.These are real struggles. I somewhat landed in a more technically creative role but work for myself. 

Sorry this is long! Don't despair. I only admire and work humans who are aware of the strengths and weaknesses. These make trustworthy humans and a team can manage so much better when we can delegate or be open about our limitations. No one can do it all. Focus on your strengths and give your self extra time for difficult tasks. 

I've heard it said that during University you'll need to pick two: Schoolwork, Friendships, Job. No one can manage all 3 - or manage them well. I find it easy to cut out social relationships when under deadlines or on project-mode. And my clients will hear from me 4x per year, maybe. Every other year we might have lunch. There's a convention I try to get to every 1-3 years as well. I have one son and 3 close friendships. 2 of these individuals I don't see as they live far away, but we'll chat on occasion. 1 lives closer and we see each other but seldom. She's 2 hours by train. There are a wealth of individuals I might catch up with at the holidays or on occasion and a philosophy group I might attend every other week.  For a majority of people this isn't actually much and it took a long time to build those few but important friendships. I'm introverted, so it's fine.

From my perspective, the "social requirements" at this point in history will limit and suffocate even the Most Ambitious. I had to learn to not answer my phone/emails but on specific days per week. And also to teach others that I'm available on my time, not theirs (obviously, when I'm being paid by someone, that's the individual who is paying for me to be on their time and not mine). This is to say: Time is something one can never get back. Uninterrupted time is required to become skilled at anything and in Uni, I would steal ALL the time you can to invest it into learning and failing and becoming and small steps toward success in whatever you feel inclined toward. Note: massive singer-songwriters will be open about disconnecting from Social Media to focus on an album. This should be a set practice. Distractions, not failure, will kill any future successes (note that these can be small and seemingly insignificant like making the perfect cappuccino - 99% of our breakthroughs will be micro-successes)

I'm in my 40s and still struggle with emails. I will leave them for an hour - a week or sometimes for months depending on the subject matter. No one mentioned how incredibly horrifying my 'executive / administrative' skills were until the 4th time I was let go from a position requiring them in my mid 20's. And it's only come to light I'm on the Spectrum a few years ago.These are real struggles. I somewhat landed in a more technically creative role but work for myself. 

Sorry this is long! Don't despair. I only admire and work humans who are aware of the strengths and weaknesses. These make trustworthy humans and a team can manage so much better when we can delegate or be open about our limitations. No one can do it all. Focus on your strengths and give your self extra time for difficult tasks.