Birthday Presents

So recently a bunch of my school friends (we are in a chat group together) decided to celebrate each person's 40th Birthday by putting money together to buy a big gift for each person – they are all dotted around the world so it was a collection to post something to each person sort of thing. I decided not to put money in because I find it strange that people celebrate the day they happened to be born, and also, I like to buy gifts myself rather than do some shared thing if I do ever buy a present.

Long story short, one of my friends got really annoyed and has stopped responding to me. I've asked him why but he doesn't respond anymore. I realise birthdays are important to NT people but am I the only person who thinks it strange to buy someone something for a day they happened to be born on? ...and what should I do to remedy this situation now?

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  • Thank you for the response. Yeah I famously (within my family) never do anything for my birthday. As a child I would run a mile if I got a sniff there was to be some sort of party or surprise I might be involved in. Now I'm an adult I find it even less logical to celebrate. When someone has a baby, gets a new job, or gets married I understand celebrating. But just doing a regimented celebration each year leaves me cold. Thanks for the advice, I think that makes sense. But I'm afraid he wont understand unless I'm willing to tell him I'm ND (I haven't yet told anyone)

  • it's completely up to you if you want to tell him but simply explaining how you view it would also be okay if you don't want to say you're ND

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