Birthday Presents

So recently a bunch of my school friends (we are in a chat group together) decided to celebrate each person's 40th Birthday by putting money together to buy a big gift for each person – they are all dotted around the world so it was a collection to post something to each person sort of thing. I decided not to put money in because I find it strange that people celebrate the day they happened to be born, and also, I like to buy gifts myself rather than do some shared thing if I do ever buy a present.

Long story short, one of my friends got really annoyed and has stopped responding to me. I've asked him why but he doesn't respond anymore. I realise birthdays are important to NT people but am I the only person who thinks it strange to buy someone something for a day they happened to be born on? ...and what should I do to remedy this situation now?

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  • I'm in complete agreement with you, JT. It's something that I don't know how to explain to people, because it would involve going through my attitude towards many other things, so I just end up going along with events most of the time. My birthday usually involves doing things that I don't want to do. It's difficult, because I don't mind giving someone else a present if it's meaningful to them, but then most people feel obliged to reciprocate.

    And can I briefly mention how much I dislike the greetings card industry?

  • Agreed! We have a rule, never send cards, because once you start you can never stop!! Waste pf the planet's resources

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