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Is this really a safe space for autistic adults?

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Recently I have noticed more comments by partners and parents of autistic people, and quite often they are derogatory towards autistic people. 

Do other people feel that this is a safe space? 

In particular, I'm upset by the thread questioning the validity of celebrities being diagnosed as autistic. Many of us have had a lifetime of struggling and discovering we are autistic is empowering as we finally make sense when so much often hasn't made sense pre-diagnosis. I don't feel that we should have to be faced with people questioning that in one of the few spaces designed for us to discuss our innermost thoughts and feelings. Sometimes I actually wonder if we are even being trolled and people aren't what they make themselves out to be. 

I just wanted to get that off my chest because I'm upset and anxious after using the forum tonight, which isn't a sign of safety. 

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  • I've now survived THREE false abuse filings, by people who frankly seemed either spoiling for a fight, or pathologically unable to deal with a dffering opinion.

    I've taken a lot disrespect if not attempted abuse from several commenters, which if I were of the "snowflake" persausion might have caused me more than the passing sadness that they did.

    I've had my authenticity as a card carrying autistic denied, facts I have supplied described as nonsense, and been on the end of some mildly offensive ad hominems (mostly retracted as peopel come to their senses)  

    So not this is not entriely a safe space for autistics.

    It does, however, contain some really bright stars amongst it's contributors, who I've watched over and over again pass on their wisdom in a compassionate and effective way.

    It is also the first place EVER that I have been where when someone was trying to whip up a campaign of hatred aginst me, people entirely unconnected to me had the decency to stand up for me unasked, and reject that process on my behalf. That was very touching, to be honest...

    But even the unfortunate events that do sometimes happen, because most of us are just honest Autists trying to come to grips with our situation or help others do the same, help me understand how my autism appears to other people. 

    It might not be entirely "safe", but it is a wonderful place to be, if you can avoid hating on people when they say something that doesn't sit well with you. 

    And clearly the moderators are not lazy here, to survive three attempts to cancel me, suggests that someone must have evaluated each case...  

  • in reply to I Sperg

    Totally agree with you, this is not as safe a place to be as I thought it would be. I've been falsely accused of a hate crime by two snowflakes however, it seems it's a differing of definition which is causing them to bring up the accusations. Nothing will change your accusers mind sadly, even when you present real proven facts or a detailed explanation, of why you've done nothing wrong by saying what you have said. Every time they click on a topic and they see your name, they will continue to see you as that bad person who hates or is a so-and-so. 

    Don't react to your accusers and don't lower yourself to their woke level, rise above them by continuing to speak openly and freely while welcoming debate. You're a far better person than they potentially ever will be. What you say may or may not offend people but who cares? You can do it because this place is full of wonderful individuals with different experiences some of which, we could all learn from and take on board.

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  • in reply to I Sperg

    Totally agree with you, this is not as safe a place to be as I thought it would be. I've been falsely accused of a hate crime by two snowflakes however, it seems it's a differing of definition which is causing them to bring up the accusations. Nothing will change your accusers mind sadly, even when you present real proven facts or a detailed explanation, of why you've done nothing wrong by saying what you have said. Every time they click on a topic and they see your name, they will continue to see you as that bad person who hates or is a so-and-so. 

    Don't react to your accusers and don't lower yourself to their woke level, rise above them by continuing to speak openly and freely while welcoming debate. You're a far better person than they potentially ever will be. What you say may or may not offend people but who cares? You can do it because this place is full of wonderful individuals with different experiences some of which, we could all learn from and take on board.

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