The way some people talk to Autism people they speak like I am baby, or dog.

As it looks here, you’re not alone having people talking down to you.

Personally, I think they treat and talk to all autistic people that way, categorise us instead of treating us as individuals.

People have said to me, “you are so real you seem to be like most people,” I don’t tell them I have autism. They have said that it is so refreshing to see someone who just says things the way it is. I do too. 

Thank you yes you make a very good point. I will do it I can copy many peoples voices and tones so I will mimic them.  When it happens again.

I'm a qualified social worker and I have seen many "professionals" do this, not only to autistic people but ti older adults and other disabled people.

The solution to this is to speak to them in the same patronising tone. That goes for anyone as well, not just people in professional roles. They will soon see 1. why you have done that and 2. that they need to change their tone. 

Don't feel rude about it either. It IS rude but that's how they are treating you! 

When I think of moments like these, I think it becomes perfectly appropriate to info dump whatever current hyper-focus I'm immersed in. These individuals need a little fright into a better sort of intellectualism. 

That, or just go full pragmatics and turn all the inquisitiveness on them. Gosh, it sounds like I make you uncomfortable... is that correct? Nothing like the direct approach to lighten the mood.

As O2 said;

Be more Dog. 

Seriously, people are so patronising; these days. They haven't evolved beyond 'Watch with Mother'.

Their loss, I guess. 

yus, it is a facade. in a way everyone masks even nt's as i doubt anyone truly wants to show on their face how they truly feel or say what they truly think, thus that is a mask even when nt's do it. nt's defo do it too as they wont tell a person to their face what they truly think about them, they go along with a act to make out to other person they are cool with them, but when that other person leaves they then gossip and whine about that other person and how they dont like the way they act or things they say, this is proof to me that everyone masks in some form.

everyones outside is different in appearance to what they are on the inside. it is society i guess that is responsible for this, we all try to create a hard stoic outside to mask our soft vulnerable emotional and erratic inside. or a freindly agreeable outside to mask a disagreeable inside.

Hi there, 

Goodness, that shows an incredible ignorance on their part.  Is that people speaking differently to the social worker or the social worker who is actually talking to you like a baby?  Whoever they are, it sounds like they are the ones who need to learn a few social skills. Personally, I'd be temped to point out very bluntly that I'm autistic not a two year old, but that's me. 

Yes me too, you see when we all talk on here we understand each other but random people in the mainstream don’t understand us, but I don’t understand them and they’re silly talk, for example: “isn’t the weather horrid today? We are supposed to say yes it’s terrible isn’t it. It sometimes makes me irritated, I don’t want to talk like that.

I have learned how to mask, but I still get things wrong. I was once eating a biscuit and this old woman said to me nothing but her body language looked like she wanted to have a bite I thought. So I said to her sorry would you like to have a bite of my biscuit? She replied “No I wouldn’t ! Thankyou very much, why would I want to eat your half eaten biscuit.” I said I don’t know?

I didn’t know what she wanted she was walking towards me so I thought I would offer to share. I don’t see things in a regular way.

I was told I had autism in 1999 that is nearly 12 years ago. I have been masking a lot do you know what that is? I am not trying to upset you by asking. If you don’t know I can explain.

Yes, it makes it difficult to know whether to disclose autism or not. I would like to be understood but I hate to be patronised.

I get the exact same treatment. I was in hospital recently and the nurses spoke to me and treated me like I was a little girl.

which then makes me react and hate them more back for the feeling that they may hate me. mixed with sadness and depression ofcourse. which seems the norm for me to always be feeling a mix of anger and sadness with sometimes a in between of nothingness.

they dont acknowledge my existance, probably because i dont really talk in person and only speak as a response when im spoken to. i guess perhaps people then think im ignoring them or not speaking to them so in turn they do not speak to me either. then i start becoming paranoid about how they feel about me, whether they hate me in some way.

I’m not on holiday. If you are you might have a good time.

Hi NAS76713.

Warmest welcome to the community. While we are waiting for the community to respond, I would like to say thank you for sharing this with us. Happy holidays!

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