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Can you relax?

Catlover

I thought I could, but I don’t think I can!

If I try to relax, I feel like I should be doing something. Whether it’s getting up to compete an action, or even if I just file my nails, or tidy the coffee table…I can’t just sit there.

I thought it was because I felt like I was being lazy when relaxing.

If I sit down to watch a film for example, I’ll start playing a game on my iPad, while occasionally scrolling through my phone. All at the same time. Or I’ll start looking up information in the film I’m watching. Or the actors. Then I’ll need to find everything out about them. And then I’m stimming also. This isn’t relaxation is it?

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  • Depends on your definition of relax really.  Being total focused on something is relaxing especially if it blanks everything else out.  It's finding the activity that does it for you that is the hard bit.  For me it is playing the piano at the moment, even though I am not that good you have to give it 100% focus.

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  • Depends on your definition of relax really.  Being total focused on something is relaxing especially if it blanks everything else out.  It's finding the activity that does it for you that is the hard bit.  For me it is playing the piano at the moment, even though I am not that good you have to give it 100% focus.

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  • in reply to Paul

    you're so right, and that's an area i just have a real hard time with. it's such a fine distinction --- i think??? -- between focusing intently on something, and finding it relaxing and enjoyable. i tend to think of focusing intensely ---------- that's not relaxing, to me. yes, finding that activity you're talking about is so hard.  

    i just think it's so hard --- really hard,,, to find things that are relaxing. i blame my asd for that... or is it add... one or both. whatever. others in my family who are asd-like just seem like whirlwinds, constant motion, leaping up at the slightest idea, and off they go.........