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Can you relax?

Catlover

I thought I could, but I don’t think I can!

If I try to relax, I feel like I should be doing something. Whether it’s getting up to compete an action, or even if I just file my nails, or tidy the coffee table…I can’t just sit there.

I thought it was because I felt like I was being lazy when relaxing.

If I sit down to watch a film for example, I’ll start playing a game on my iPad, while occasionally scrolling through my phone. All at the same time. Or I’ll start looking up information in the film I’m watching. Or the actors. Then I’ll need to find everything out about them. And then I’m stimming also. This isn’t relaxation is it?

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  • If you are thinking about things when you are 'relaxing' then that's not really relaxing, you won't feel relaxed either.  Its anxiety or compulsion, but something to work on.  I find mindfulness helps me have a break, its about focussing away from yourself for a while each day.  Autistic people tend to ruminate and end up stressed/tense, and burnt out if it continues for years.

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  • If you are thinking about things when you are 'relaxing' then that's not really relaxing, you won't feel relaxed either.  Its anxiety or compulsion, but something to work on.  I find mindfulness helps me have a break, its about focussing away from yourself for a while each day.  Autistic people tend to ruminate and end up stressed/tense, and burnt out if it continues for years.

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