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Disclosure of diagnosis

Jon

I was only diagnosed with Aspergers last year at the age of 39. Its no secret but I just havn't told many people. I don't really have many friends and even then I only see them infrequently. I see little of my family. I have told my work and am off sick as I am not coping there.

I was just wondering what other peoples thoughts and experiences were with regard to telling people about there diagnosis. If you tell someone then they mkisunderstand so you are responsible for giving them all the information. Thats seems hard. I just don't know how to go about telling people in a way they will understand. I suppose that to tell someone there has to be some benift or whats the point? Its definately not a secret though but I just don't want people to misunderstand.

How have other people dealt with telling people they already know or new people?

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  • the world see's through Nt's eyes, you can explain your condition until you are blue in face, it makes no real difference to them, even the professionals, GP's, socialworkers, etc,, do not have a clue about the condition of Aspergers,, they view from the Nt world. I'll give you a good example, you tell them you have a problem with X, the say do Y, the y for an asperger conditon is liking jumping out a plane without a parachute, because that is there normal response and action, then they say you don't want help !

    They can't see it, because they don't live it by experience. If anything when you tell people you aspergers or autism, they look at you and treat you as a spastic long-term. 

    So, I would not, do not tell anyone unless it is for medical or work reasons, socially you just make the gap bigger. If you are suddenly expecting the world to understand you,, forget it, that is why we talk on the forum, like for like.

     

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  • the world see's through Nt's eyes, you can explain your condition until you are blue in face, it makes no real difference to them, even the professionals, GP's, socialworkers, etc,, do not have a clue about the condition of Aspergers,, they view from the Nt world. I'll give you a good example, you tell them you have a problem with X, the say do Y, the y for an asperger conditon is liking jumping out a plane without a parachute, because that is there normal response and action, then they say you don't want help !

    They can't see it, because they don't live it by experience. If anything when you tell people you aspergers or autism, they look at you and treat you as a spastic long-term. 

    So, I would not, do not tell anyone unless it is for medical or work reasons, socially you just make the gap bigger. If you are suddenly expecting the world to understand you,, forget it, that is why we talk on the forum, like for like.

     

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