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Feeling like I'm going to explode

Jubbajubz

Hi. I Went out with my bro on his 50th birthday today and he started getting moody with me and I asked why. He said I hadn't wished him many happy returns! So I've come down through Storm Barra with my new cat and done things like cook his tea yesterday and brought him tea this morning and cooked breakfast. We've done a lot of things he's wanted to do which I didn't want to do so it's been his day. What does he want? Blood! And to put the boot on the other foot he forgot my 50th birthday and thought I was 49. He hasn't made any effort to make amends for what he did. I'm really upset and p*ssed off by him as I've made an effort which is hard for me as I'd rather be back at home doing things I like by myself with my cat and not doing people or celebrations listening to music which is my sanity escape and I haven't been allowed to do. On top of that he's told me he'll need help when he retires and our parents die in the future. He's the last person I want to deal with. I feel like I want to have a meltdown. I'm really trying not to. Thank goodness he's gone out for a bit.

  • in reply to NAS76713

    I went to another party for my brother last night. It's the usual social issues. People are good with conversation and you find you can't say anything or if you want to say something it's when as watching people talk is like looking at a tennis match. I find I get in when they drop the ball but normally it's too late to try and say something otherwise it's like trying to add another ball into the tennis match and it doesn't work. Only time I found it really interesting was discussing solar tiles and energy efficiency in houses which is basically my insane houses interest. Then I'm flying and everyone else nods off unless they are really into it.

  • in reply to Jubbajubz

    That’s good news, that they accept it.

    • I was thinking about us all chatting with each other, on here, and a thought came to me.
    • Is this what people mean when they talk about chitchat?  I think this might be what they mean? If not what is chitchat? Does anyone know?
  • in reply to Desmond79

    I don't know how to make pizza dough yet

    otherwise I might haver tried that too Smiley

    but I learned how to make dumplings dough

    so I could have dumplings ''Dumplings 20 ways Christmas'' if there was somebody to enjoy it with me

    my favourite are those called in Poland 'russian' dumplings

  • in reply to Jubbajubz

    I don't mind cooking, but despise those tasks. I could never do a roast. Not enough patience. 

  • in reply to NAS76713

    I have a friend with two Autistic kids, and they have Pizza for Christmas Day. 

  • in reply to NAS76713

    Hi Diane. Thanks for answering. I've been referred to adult autistic services and am waiting to see if I am high functioning autism which doc thinks. I get the same jobs at my brother's as you do at your sister's place! It's made me decide to spend Xmas by myself which I have enjoyed in the past and felt stressed out instead of going to my brother's again with the family when I know I'll be gritting my teeth all the way through or just doing kitchen jobs to get away from the noise of people which really affects me. I'm just feeling relieved at making the decision which I've been putting off. Fortunately with the weather in Cumbria it's a good enough excuse for them to accept. 

  • Hi I’m Diane, only found out I have hight autism not long ago. I know what you mean. I find it hard when people want me to do things, when they are not in my normal day.

    I do only try to do what I feel will not upset me.

    I missed my sisters wedding because I couldn’t leave my pets. I just couldn’t go. It was 7 hours away. I couldn’t think how I would get home and who would feed my Parrots. I did not go. I felt bad. But what could I do? She has forgiven me.

    I’m not seeing my family for Christmas because now I have 2 Yorkshire Terrier’s. I want to see my dad, but when I go one of my sisters always gets me to chop veg and put bins out and do her hoovering. Plus wash pans. I hate doing all those jobs. I thought If you go for  Christmas you sit and just eat and drink watch films maybe. I don’t do all those jobs at my other sisters place.

  • I would choose cat too, or two :P

  • Irish Twins?

    Yeah, People are Prickly Pears; even on good days. Enjoy your time with the cat.