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Adult dx: Anger towards those who should’ve done something

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Hi all,

undergoing assessment process starting next week but it seems to pretty obvious to those who know me. I’m kinda getting my head around the prospect. Some of the reading I’ve done alarms me; I’ve experienced bullying both obvious types like at school and uni etc and the more subtle isolating tricks NTs use when they don’t like someone (both hurt just as much imo). 

I’m over 50 years old and I look back at my life and to be honest, I’m extremely annoyed and angry at those who should have done something allowed this behaviour towards me to continue and even took part - parents, siblings, teachers, colleagues (I’m a MH healthcare professional) etc. The closer I get to my assessment the more intense these feelings are……those that are supposed to love and look after me, just let me have a miserable life wondering why I don’t fit in. Anyone else experience these thoughts and feelings? Do they pass?

tia x

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  • Hello Tia,

    I was diagnosed in my mid-sixties so know just how you feel. I recognise most of what you describe, I've been on the outside looking in for most of my life.

    After being assessed, I did feel agrieved that no-one had picked it up. I'd been through the mental health team, seen psychiatrists, psychologists and counsellors and been repeatedly diagnosed with anxiety disorders, nothing else.  I was taken to see a specialist doctor when aged about five as I'd been throwing tantrums, and I think I was assessed then, but it seems it was quickly forgotten and buried, or maybe the process was not completed, I just don't know.

    So, as I say above,  I grew up on the outside looking in. Bewildered and confused I got through life as best I could... always knowing that I was different and never really having anyone on my side, it's been tough. TBH I'm still a bit resentful that no-one helped me. Maybe my family just couldn't deal with it, I don't know.

    Now enjoying retirement....

    Ben

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  • Hello Tia,

    I was diagnosed in my mid-sixties so know just how you feel. I recognise most of what you describe, I've been on the outside looking in for most of my life.

    After being assessed, I did feel agrieved that no-one had picked it up. I'd been through the mental health team, seen psychiatrists, psychologists and counsellors and been repeatedly diagnosed with anxiety disorders, nothing else.  I was taken to see a specialist doctor when aged about five as I'd been throwing tantrums, and I think I was assessed then, but it seems it was quickly forgotten and buried, or maybe the process was not completed, I just don't know.

    So, as I say above,  I grew up on the outside looking in. Bewildered and confused I got through life as best I could... always knowing that I was different and never really having anyone on my side, it's been tough. TBH I'm still a bit resentful that no-one helped me. Maybe my family just couldn't deal with it, I don't know.

    Now enjoying retirement....

    Ben

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