NT Aspie Marriage

My husband has autism. I’m NT.  We’ve been married for decades. I’d like to connect with other women with autistic partners to provide a support group. There’s a lot of information available to parents with autistic children and that’s how it should be.  There’s not a lot available relating to NT/ASD adult relationships. I have done some research and learned a lot but it would be good to talk to others in a similar situation. 

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  • I'm sort of on the other side, discovered I was Autistic earlier on this year just before my wife decided we were getting a divorce.

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  • I'm sort of on the other side, discovered I was Autistic earlier on this year just before my wife decided we were getting a divorce.

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  • Hi noUserName

    I feel for you. It’s very sad. It’s a shame you both didn’t know about your autism sooner because it might have made a difference to your wife’s choices. 

    Once my husband was diagnosed it made a big difference in how we related to one another. One major difference for me is that I understood that some of his behaviours that hurt me were not deliberate or personal. I understood more about how his brain processed things differently to mine. 

    I think learning about and understanding about autism is important for anyone on the spectrum or who is close to someone on the spectrum. It can help to avoid some of the challenges that can arise in personal relationships. All personal relationships have their challenges whether ASD is involved or not. I don’t know if it’s too late for your wife to reconsider. Who knows what lies in the future but there are women willing to work at a neurodiverse relationship so please don’t give up hope. I’ve loved and supported my husband for over 40 years.