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Ladybird

My coworkers are not my friends.

I know they aren’t but it hurts.

My workmates are my only mates and I used to think my teammates were actually my friends. 

That we were bunch of friends because we spend most of the day together, eat together, work together. 

Maybe they are friends, just not to me.

Laughing together, talking together, drinking after work together.

It makes me sad. Why I even care?

I’ll be fine.

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  • I used to quite enjoy the drinking culture when I worked in an office. It let me get to know people that I would never have voluntarily initiated contact with.

    Yes - most were "friends-lite", but that suited me well - a great sense of camaraderie, but without the inevitable NT demands of real friends (or at least it was easy for me to say 'no' to social activities with them outside of after-work drinks and the work Christmas function).

    Over the years a (very) few of the friends-lite became friends proper. I might even call them again one day if I ever get out of Defense Mode.

  • in reply to moon

    The problem is at what point acquaintances become friends- lite and from what point they can be considered real friends.

  • in reply to Ladybird

    In my brain, i only have acquaintances and best friends. i dont really understand the notion of casual friends. you're either very close to me, or i dont think about you at all hahah

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