Published on 12, July, 2020
Has anyone else struggled? Apart from when I was very young I only have very short term relationships- usually about 3 months, and I’m usually the one to end them. It can be years in between relationships though. I’ve always been awful at judging how to get across to someone that I’m interested, sometimes I try anyway and it may or may not go well - I often do cringeworthy things like fail to notice a wedding ring or something. Sometimes though I don’t really understand what I could have done differently, other than be a bit more forward on the times where I didn’t speak up enough - it’s just my difficulty understanding signals over the years, even though I believe I’m better now, as well as generally being an absent minded, daydreaming oddball (even if the women I’ve been with have assured me they find my appearance very attractive), has totally sapped my confidence. I have almost zero success with dating apps.
I expect a lot of this is more a problem for autistic men, as it’s normally men who do the asking, but I suppose for autistic women there are other relationship difficulties?
It would be interesting to know if anyone has had similar experiences, and if they have any advice.
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Hippopotomonstrosesquippedaliophobia said:So the alone time that recharges us, will drain them. And the social interaction that recharges them, will drain us
This is a good way to express it!
my husband has been diagnosed as Autistic after the last three years of us slowly realising it. It’s a real struggle for us now and we have two small children. Hubby can’t read emotion at all really and therefore he also cannot emotionally support me or the kids and it’s causing massive problems for family life.