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Advice please - need response!

FinlaysonA

Hi, hope all of you are well. 
I am a teen and I am really struggling, I will detail it here.

So basically my Mum’s friend is a constant nuisance as she asks stupid questions that are very easy to answer and it essentially shows she knows nothing. She’s been doing it for a while now. I always try to help as best I can but I’m very direct as I get very annoyed. These arguments/heated conversation for an hours. Today we had an argument and another of my mums friends absolutely lost it. When she lost it I got the angriest I’ve got in a while resulting in me breaking things and smashing a cake into the ground. I didn’t know what to do. 

Is it normal (bearing in mind I am autistic) for me to break things and be one of the angriest people any of my family know?

Is it normal to care too much about what people think of me?

Is it normal for me to always react?

Is it normal for me to care too much about things in general?

Please let me know!

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  • FinlaysonA said:
    Is it normal (bearing in mind I am autistic) for me to break things and be one of the angriest people any of my family know?

    This usually happens to me only when I don't have enough spoons/energy to cope with other people and their NT behaviours, and I have no way to escape - I am very much more into flight rather fight.

    Why don't you just leave the room when you start feeling like this?

    I *always* have an exit strategy planned for any social interaction (even with my wife!).

    FinlaysonA said:

    Is it normal to care too much about what people think of me?

    I used to think I was overly sensitive about this... until I realised it's because in order to mask effectively I have to by hyper-aware of how other people think of me (and of course this does not come naturally to most autists!).

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  • FinlaysonA said:
    Is it normal (bearing in mind I am autistic) for me to break things and be one of the angriest people any of my family know?

    This usually happens to me only when I don't have enough spoons/energy to cope with other people and their NT behaviours, and I have no way to escape - I am very much more into flight rather fight.

    Why don't you just leave the room when you start feeling like this?

    I *always* have an exit strategy planned for any social interaction (even with my wife!).

    FinlaysonA said:

    Is it normal to care too much about what people think of me?

    I used to think I was overly sensitive about this... until I realised it's because in order to mask effectively I have to by hyper-aware of how other people think of me (and of course this does not come naturally to most autists!).

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