Published on 12, July, 2020
He asked if I was annoyed at him this morning and I said no, explained it was an external situation that was annoying me. He repeated the questioning so many times to the point I asked him frustratedly to trust that I was telling him the truth. He said he should just go kill himself and slammed a door. When told this wasn’t okay he brought it back to autism.
The other day I went out with my friends for Halloween to a club event. I told him before that I didn’t really want to go and would probably be back early. I understand I was at fault because he took this literally. He blew up my phone on every social media asking why I wasn’t replying and he accused me of not being where I said I was. When I proved I was he said he never said it. He’s often saying he never said things that he did.
We all went home after that. When I got home he said that I was a hypocrite because I kicked him out when he went out with his friends and came back late - which is a lie. He said he was leaving at like 3am because he “refused to be spoken to like that” - when I was just disputing outright lies. I offered him the sofa multiple times and he refused, before eventually coming to my front door and shouting for hours. He says this was an autistic freak out, and that he never made stuff up but that it was due to his autism. I’m so tired of everything being to do with his autism. I feel like I’m a constant carer for his emotional well-being.
He also doesn’t work due to stress related seizures, spends all of his money on weed to reduce the seizures (he’s had one in 3 months b it that could be because he smokes an ounce in a few days), and I’m now supporting us. He’s moved in with me and doesn’t contribute, I mean he’ll pay for the odd thing but then I end up having to buy his weed because he doesn’t have enough. He would end up homeless if anything were to go wrong here. I don’t know what to do. Please help.
I dont think it's down to his autism (not just his autism anyway). I think it is the smoking too
Some people are just not very high functioning when using weed, especially EVERY DAY. It makes them zombie like and very dazed and confused.
Reminds me of my ex boyfriend who was so emotionally baffling. He smoked so much every day, and it did not help him, and lot of his behaviour in our relationship was emotional thrill-seeking. Same for a couple of my old friends, who lived life on autopilot and did not know how to deal with new issues in their lives. They would rant a lot and display very illogical and inconsequential reasoning skills when trying to deal with their own issues. Going round and round in circles like your boyfriend.
I'm not slamming the use of marijuana, but just like all other types of medication, it's not right for everyone and it can be abused to a point where it is unhelpful and unhealthy.
Anyway, it sounds like maybe he needs to try relying on a support worker more, and less on you. and a referral for CBT.
NAS15878 said:Anyway, it sounds like maybe he needs to try relying on a support worker more, and less on you. and a referral for CBT.
I agree.
Also smoking more weed makes people more tolerant and so have to smoke more for the same effect but I cannot say much because If I have no weed and I have £20 spare I will spend it on weed. I have none of either at the moment so I will have to do without but I am not having any withdrawal symptoms