My adult boyfriend has inappropriate behaviour and comments and my family think he’s “too much”

My boyfriend is 22 (im 24). He’s great to me and he’s lovely. But I believe he is ADHD and on the autistic spectrum. When he’s with my family they think he’s “too much” or “annoying” because he talks a lot, and can’t sit still and makes comments which people think are inappropriate. He will bully grown men about football which he thinks is a joke but others don’t like it. He stands up and follows people to the toilet and has no awareness of personal space. He also has a very serious issue with drinking alcohol as he gets way too drunk and gets himself on trouble. I’m at a loss because my family think I should end the relationship because they don’t like him. I don’t know how to tell him he needs help or a diagnosis from a GP. Is anyone else struggling with a similar situation?

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  • yea he sounds really "all over the place" 

    keep him away from your family until he can control himself a bit more.

    Following someone to the toilet is very scary.

    i stopped drinking alcohol completely  because i was losing control and i was drinking more an more. It is also a depressive chemical so adds to or can cause anxiety/depression. 

    tell him please,,   it would be the best thing that has ever happened to him,

    at least

    write him a short letter, covering the above text ,and give it to him then u go for a walk and let him think it over.

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  • yea he sounds really "all over the place" 

    keep him away from your family until he can control himself a bit more.

    Following someone to the toilet is very scary.

    i stopped drinking alcohol completely  because i was losing control and i was drinking more an more. It is also a depressive chemical so adds to or can cause anxiety/depression. 

    tell him please,,   it would be the best thing that has ever happened to him,

    at least

    write him a short letter, covering the above text ,and give it to him then u go for a walk and let him think it over.

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