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Coming to terms with a diagnosis

AutisticTeacher79

Hi, 

Recently diagnosed as a 42-year-old. Is there any help anywhere in coming to terms with the diagnosis? Can feel very overwhelming and really low at times. When I'm busy it's fine. I do alright in life, I'm a teacher, have a wonderful partner and a daughter, step-daughter and a 1-year-old boy. Meaningful conversation doesn't really happen, just a list of questions to ask, no follow-ups etc. 

Thanks in advance of any help 

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  • Why did you get a diagnosis if you don't mind me asking? As you said you do alright in life. I got a diagnosis because life wasn't/isn't going well. I'm jealous. All my life I've wanted a girlfriend or/and sex. These thoughts are with me everyday. I got diagnosed with ASD a few months ago. I am 55 years old. 

  • in reply to NAS75968

    Good question. I’ll get to that in a minute.

    I guess it’s a spectrum and everyone has a different profile. There maybe somethings you find easy and me difficult and vice versa. Try not to get jealous, I’m sure there are dating sites etc you can join? Defo somebody for everyone. 

    Back to the diagnosis, in all honesty probably to make my ex wife consider whether our daughter has autism and seek help for her. My daughter struggles socially in school, hates the changes and is very rigid leading to her anxiety causing a sore tummy and not going to school. Whilst my ex agrees to these things happening, she won’t even entertain asd as a possibility. I’m hoping she might recognise a genetic link and at least consider asking the school to use ASD friendly strategies. 

    looking back and analysing my ways certainly contributed to the break down of our marriage. 

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  • in reply to NAS75968

    Good question. I’ll get to that in a minute.

    I guess it’s a spectrum and everyone has a different profile. There maybe somethings you find easy and me difficult and vice versa. Try not to get jealous, I’m sure there are dating sites etc you can join? Defo somebody for everyone. 

    Back to the diagnosis, in all honesty probably to make my ex wife consider whether our daughter has autism and seek help for her. My daughter struggles socially in school, hates the changes and is very rigid leading to her anxiety causing a sore tummy and not going to school. Whilst my ex agrees to these things happening, she won’t even entertain asd as a possibility. I’m hoping she might recognise a genetic link and at least consider asking the school to use ASD friendly strategies. 

    looking back and analysing my ways certainly contributed to the break down of our marriage. 

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