Question for unemployed people. Did you have an angry parent?

Well, although I've usually managed to stay employed, I'd say finding and keeping a job was made many times more difficult due to anxiety and timidity.  My parents weren't that angry (except where I think they really had just cause and even then they never "lost it" and were always fair with us) but they really weren't very savvy and they too were timid, anxious and extremely sensitive.  And, although there are many positives to being sensitive, being chronically anxious isn't exactly an asset in the workplace.  Many around us subscribe to the attitude of, "Shy kids get nowt" and at work will seek out and promote more assertive types.  Me and mine just don't fit into workplaces with that culture and, for me that's been the issue.  

I was loved but my parental role models were very shy and retiring and I've yet to see a job advert seeking shy, avoidant personalities like me.  I don't think they had the wherewithall to prepare me and at school they only focussed on academic stuff.  So although anger didn't play a part, it still felt as though vital ingredients were missing.  Also that this related to growing up in a neurodivergent family whose members were already struggling with other people and the outside world.  

I'm not sure what proportion of autistic people are successful though, nor how we would describe "success".  Certainly my parents were kind and gentle people and I still believe that the world could do with more like them.  And to me that's a kind of success, even if it's not widely recognised.        

Well, although I've usually managed to stay employed, I'd say finding and keeping a job was made many times more difficult due to anxiety and timidity.  My parents weren't that angry (except where I think they really had just cause and even then they never "lost it" and were always fair with us) but they really weren't very savvy and they too were timid, anxious and extremely sensitive.  And, although there are many positives to being sensitive, being chronically anxious isn't exactly an asset in the workplace.  Many around us subscribe to the attitude of, "Shy kids get nowt" and at work will seek out and promote more assertive types.  Me and mine just don't fit into workplaces with that culture and, for me that's been the issue.  

I was loved but my parental role models were very shy and retiring and I've yet to see a job advert seeking shy, avoidant personalities like me.  I don't think they had the wherewithall to prepare me and at school they only focussed on academic stuff.  So although anger didn't play a part, it still felt as though vital ingredients were missing.  Also that this related to growing up in a neurodivergent family whose members were already struggling with other people and the outside world.  

I'm not sure what proportion of autistic people are successful though, nor how we would describe "success".  Certainly my parents were kind and gentle people and I still believe that the world could do with more like them.  And to me that's a kind of success, even if it's not widely recognised.