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Question for unemployed people. Did you have an angry parent?

Roswell

Just wondering.

I've never been employed and have very serious mental health issues.

When I was a child my dad would blow up in rage and drama whenever anything surprised him in the house or an accident happened. This made me afraid to interact with people and affected my learning.

Anyone else think something similar happened to them?

Because it strikes me some Autistic people are a lot more successful, and I am fairly sure the reason is they had more savvy/better parents.

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  • I had very short-fused parents, particularly my stepfather, who expected me to basically not be seen or heard. I found solace in praise from teachers at school which compensated for the negativity at home, but the problem was that when I got things even the slightest bit wrong or felt criticised or told off then I'd cry and cry. I really struggle even now to keep my emotions in control. 

    I react the same to managers. I changed jobs 6 months ago and I still have a lot to learn, but I'm a tough self-critic and expect too much from myself (and others). Even simple mistakes with no major consequences feel like a huge issue to me. 

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  • I had very short-fused parents, particularly my stepfather, who expected me to basically not be seen or heard. I found solace in praise from teachers at school which compensated for the negativity at home, but the problem was that when I got things even the slightest bit wrong or felt criticised or told off then I'd cry and cry. I really struggle even now to keep my emotions in control. 

    I react the same to managers. I changed jobs 6 months ago and I still have a lot to learn, but I'm a tough self-critic and expect too much from myself (and others). Even simple mistakes with no major consequences feel like a huge issue to me. 

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