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Told off for not being excited enough

Magnolia1

My husband and I don't properly argue like with shouting or anything but we do have frustrating moments. 

I go told off for not being excited enough when he told me about something to do with his work. He says I talk to him about my obsession and he pretends to be interested but I don't do it for him .

So, I made a conscious decision not to talk to him about my obsession and he told me he wasn't going to bother telling me about his stuff anymore.  

The result of this is we have not really spoken about anything other than our child in the last 2 days and there has been a lot of awkward silence.  

I tried to explain to him that I didn't do it on purpose but he just can't seem to understand. 

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  • If you would like to take it upon yourself to fix this silence; a simple I'm sorry, I'll try to do better in future, I would still love to hear about your day, could most likely fix the 2day silence. Not talking can likely aggravate the situation.

    Though that's just as much his fault as it is yours for letting it last that long.

    As for reducing the chance of a similar occurrence you would want to look for his emotional expressions such as laughing smiling, a  higher pitch tone in voice that would express his happiness about what he is talking about and then you can without exactly copying them provide a similar variant of them in return.

    I wrote some information about empathy at the link below though it's mostly written for sadness, the learning and questioning in it can be applied here as well.

    community.autism.org.uk/.../empathy

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  • If you would like to take it upon yourself to fix this silence; a simple I'm sorry, I'll try to do better in future, I would still love to hear about your day, could most likely fix the 2day silence. Not talking can likely aggravate the situation.

    Though that's just as much his fault as it is yours for letting it last that long.

    As for reducing the chance of a similar occurrence you would want to look for his emotional expressions such as laughing smiling, a  higher pitch tone in voice that would express his happiness about what he is talking about and then you can without exactly copying them provide a similar variant of them in return.

    I wrote some information about empathy at the link below though it's mostly written for sadness, the learning and questioning in it can be applied here as well.

    community.autism.org.uk/.../empathy

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