Early childhood questionnaire

Hi all,

I have posted similar about this before but I am a 35 year old female looking into diagnosis.

I am thinking of going private because of the 2 year NHS waiting list in my area, but the first part of assessment seems to be an early childhood questionnaire which asks about any signs of autism in my early years. It says that for autism to be diagnosed, there must have been signs present in early childhood. I have been through a similar questionnaire with my mother before with the NHS, and it seems as though I was a child with 'normal' development, and it doesn't seem as though I did have any autistic traits then, according to her. I somehow doubt this as although I can't remember much of my childhood, I feel really do have a lot of traits as an adult woman.

The only strong traits I had as a child are that I was very quiet, painfully shy, with a dislike of loud noises, and that I was an early talker and reader, with a talent for playing the piano and memorising music. I had no learning disabilities, no particular special interests, and was able to make and keep friends, although usually had one best friend who I clung onto.

I am a bit worried that based on this questionnaire, the assessor will not be able to take my assessment further (worried both about the cost, and the feeling that if I am not autistic, then what am I?). I'm not sure whether to involve my mother in this early years questionnaire, or to fill it out myself, although this feels a bit strange.

Anyone have any similar worries/ experiences of assessment?

Thanks in advance