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Is he being naughty or just being himself?

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My son is 6 years old and diagnosed with autism. He has speech and language delay but is able to communicate and understand simple concepts. I would welcome your advice on how to parent his behaviour. Example…he has been in school all day, he’s allowed his iPad when he gets in. We warn him dinner will be ready in 10 minutes, then again in 5 minutes, then a last warning to put the iPad down and go to the table for dinner. He still doesn’t move saying he can’t and gets frustrated, angry and upset. He knows he can’t have his iPad at the table but he will get it again after dinner. I know that I would eventually be able to coax him to the dinning table but the time it would take would mean the food was cold. In so many everyday situations like getting out of bed, climbing the stairs, sitting down, getting up etc he always says he can’t and he needs help. Is this him being difficult? How do I parent this without getting angry? Sometimes I have the time to give in to his demands but not all the time. I just don’t know what to do for the best, I hate getting angry with him and I don’t know what is bad behaviour and what is part of being autistic. 

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  • I'd say it's part of being autistic, but also about being 6. I'd give up on the countdown till he's older. I'd use the microwave to heat up the cold food. I'd give up on him eating at the same time as you.

    For the everyday activities, I wonder if though he may be six years old, but maybe his behaviour is developing at a different pace to his peers. He will get there. 

    All of the above is easy for me to say. I hope that things get easier for you over time.

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  • I'd say it's part of being autistic, but also about being 6. I'd give up on the countdown till he's older. I'd use the microwave to heat up the cold food. I'd give up on him eating at the same time as you.

    For the everyday activities, I wonder if though he may be six years old, but maybe his behaviour is developing at a different pace to his peers. He will get there. 

    All of the above is easy for me to say. I hope that things get easier for you over time.

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