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Hello,

I am recently self-diagnosed in my mid 30s. My partner of 7 years was initially receptive when I shared the news two months ago. Now he says I’m “using it as an excuse” whenever I explain my behaviour as being part of my autism traits. I don’t know what to do or say when he makes comments such as this. It’s incredibly hurtful. 

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  • The written diagnosis usually lists the traits and difficulties of the individual, has your partner seen this document? If not, seeing it might give him some concrete appreciation of your autistic presentation. You could point out that your behaviour has not changed since your diagnosis, but what was once just 'how you felt', now has an explanation, and that this ability to explain is important to you, and you feel that you should be able to share this with him.

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  • The written diagnosis usually lists the traits and difficulties of the individual, has your partner seen this document? If not, seeing it might give him some concrete appreciation of your autistic presentation. You could point out that your behaviour has not changed since your diagnosis, but what was once just 'how you felt', now has an explanation, and that this ability to explain is important to you, and you feel that you should be able to share this with him.

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