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Hello,

I am recently self-diagnosed in my mid 30s. My partner of 7 years was initially receptive when I shared the news two months ago. Now he says I’m “using it as an excuse” whenever I explain my behaviour as being part of my autism traits. I don’t know what to do or say when he makes comments such as this. It’s incredibly hurtful. 

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  • Well, in the situation you describe, I would start by saying to him, "When you make comments like that to me, it’s incredibly hurtful." It may be that he is unaware of their impact upon you. If he continued to make the comments to me in the knowledge that they cause me hurt, then it would be clear to me that it is a toxic relationship and one that I would exit at the earliest opportunity.

    A truly loving relationship is one in which the loved ones are free to be themselves. My suggestion would be to love yourself and work on the relationship with yourself. You are the one with whom you spend your entire life. If you love yourself, you no longer allow people who hurt you to be in your life. 

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  • Well, in the situation you describe, I would start by saying to him, "When you make comments like that to me, it’s incredibly hurtful." It may be that he is unaware of their impact upon you. If he continued to make the comments to me in the knowledge that they cause me hurt, then it would be clear to me that it is a toxic relationship and one that I would exit at the earliest opportunity.

    A truly loving relationship is one in which the loved ones are free to be themselves. My suggestion would be to love yourself and work on the relationship with yourself. You are the one with whom you spend your entire life. If you love yourself, you no longer allow people who hurt you to be in your life. 

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