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Is it normal for an adult with Aspergers to resent adulthood and have a strong urge to regress to a childlike state?

Hope

I resent being an adult, and would much prefer to revert back to my teenage years, ie school years, or even younger still. To put it mildly, I hate adulthood and all that it implies. I am still a child, emotionally and psychologically speaking, as well as being a narcisist with a strong desire for attention. I can't take criticism, I am easily hurt emotionally if I don't get my way, and I am very egotistical. I like to assume a dependent role in many situations, but I also need to dominate things and people. Is this normal? Should I get help to deal with this? Or is this simply a part of my autism and inability to cope in a 'neurotypical' world. I employ regressive techniques when I feel insecure, like childish giggling, a childish voice, and childish behaviour. My sense of self is labile, ie I have no idea as to who I really am. With no friends my own age, I have no reference point. All my acquaintances are authority figures, and people my own age annoy me.

 

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  • Thanks for the replies.

    autismtwo: When needed, I can assume an adult manner, for example in my voluntary work, and whenever I need to do adult tasks that involve other people. It is just that I feel like a split personality, where my ego is split in two. Both the adult and the child ego are in conflict, so to speak, because while intellectually and physically I am an adult, emotionally I am years behind in my development. I still feel as though I am going through my teenage years, whereas when I really was a teenager, I was still going through my childhood years. Normal society, however, expects development to be uniform, that is 'neurotypical', without understanding that some of us still feel like teenagers well into our 20s and 30s!.

    Stuffed: That is it. I am longing for security because I lack it in the present. However disagreeable school could be, it at least provided me with a timetable and a structure.

    Autismtwo: I chose the pseudonym  'hope' because I like to hope that things will get better.

    Scorpian: I am aware I need to address it because it is not healthy to constantly ruminate over the past, but the question is, how can I succeed in rebuilding a sense of security when I have very little external structure?

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  • Thanks for the replies.

    autismtwo: When needed, I can assume an adult manner, for example in my voluntary work, and whenever I need to do adult tasks that involve other people. It is just that I feel like a split personality, where my ego is split in two. Both the adult and the child ego are in conflict, so to speak, because while intellectually and physically I am an adult, emotionally I am years behind in my development. I still feel as though I am going through my teenage years, whereas when I really was a teenager, I was still going through my childhood years. Normal society, however, expects development to be uniform, that is 'neurotypical', without understanding that some of us still feel like teenagers well into our 20s and 30s!.

    Stuffed: That is it. I am longing for security because I lack it in the present. However disagreeable school could be, it at least provided me with a timetable and a structure.

    Autismtwo: I chose the pseudonym  'hope' because I like to hope that things will get better.

    Scorpian: I am aware I need to address it because it is not healthy to constantly ruminate over the past, but the question is, how can I succeed in rebuilding a sense of security when I have very little external structure?

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