Supporting my wife

I think ASD is such a personal thing that nobody could really tell you without really knowing your wife. There are some things my wife and I have talked about that are red flags for me. These may seem such simple things to a 'normal person' but can set 'us ' off.

Changes of plans. I have a picture of my day in my head and if I get asked to say stop at the shop on the way home it really throws me.

Blurting stuff out without thinking too much and maybe in a way that doesn't sound kind. I get told I am being nasty saying things in a certian way but I am not I am just betting frustrated with myself not being able to explain things.

Dont be too hard on her for simple domestic things. Ours is loading the dishwasher, my wife says its wrong, I say its just diffrent and put it on before she notices. Look at the bigger picture.

Be kind and understanding. She is still the person you married, she just now has a diffrent label.

The key for me is not being pushed to do things I find uncomftable. Try and get your wife to explain why she may not want to do something and accept  it doesn't have to be something you understand but just try and accept what she says. Think about stuff you maybe had problems with in the past and how her ASD may be the cause of that?

Good luck.

Rob

I think ASD is such a personal thing that nobody could really tell you without really knowing your wife. There are some things my wife and I have talked about that are red flags for me. These may seem such simple things to a 'normal person' but can set 'us ' off.

Changes of plans. I have a picture of my day in my head and if I get asked to say stop at the shop on the way home it really throws me.

Blurting stuff out without thinking too much and maybe in a way that doesn't sound kind. I get told I am being nasty saying things in a certian way but I am not I am just betting frustrated with myself not being able to explain things.

Dont be too hard on her for simple domestic things. Ours is loading the dishwasher, my wife says its wrong, I say its just diffrent and put it on before she notices. Look at the bigger picture.

Be kind and understanding. She is still the person you married, she just now has a diffrent label.

The key for me is not being pushed to do things I find uncomftable. Try and get your wife to explain why she may not want to do something and accept  it doesn't have to be something you understand but just try and accept what she says. Think about stuff you maybe had problems with in the past and how her ASD may be the cause of that?

Good luck.

Rob