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Strange situation with a girl

NAS75705

I met a girl at university and we have been friendly and chatty and a few people told me that she liked me and so I tried to get to know her better and I was building up to asking her out but now she is going out with someone else and I feel really bad and weird about it. I feel sad that she is going out with someone and I feel very jealous that other people have the ability to ask people out and I feel really left out because I don't know how to go about meeting people.  

I really want to get over her but I feel like I cant and I keep thinking about her, I live very close to her and we are in the same loose friendship group and we car share so I keep seeing her and when I do I feel very sad and uncomfortable.  

I kind of want to tell her how i feel but i don't want to be made fun of or upset her or make things weird 

  • in reply to NAS15878

    u sound a really nice person. I think in the long run u will win so play the long game. Unless, what u fancy is married, there should be no reason for any awkwardness on your part,, u have done nothing wrong. 

    be nice, be friendly, and take your time,,,,,  play it cool

  • I agree with bassface

    also it is an objectively socially awkward situation to be in, so I think how you feel is valid and not something to even be self conscious about. I would probably try to talk to her and break the ice, or just make her feel comfortable that we could still be friends. How? don't ask me! lool

    just being nice and showing I still care. maybe some jokes Stars I hope you figure it all out

  • Do you know whether she is in a serious relationship or is it casual dating? If it's serious, I think you should probably not say anything about it to her unless they break up. Otherwise I think it would be OK to say something. You could text her or write a note. That also makes it less awkward for her because she would have time to process it before replying. She won't make fun of you unless she is a horrible person, and if she is horrible then you don't want to know her anyway.

  • I miss out on having a partner myself, I’ve asked many people in the past but it’s always been a no response, sometimes they prejudged me and some just thought it wouldn’t work and some were already going out with another.

    It makes me wonder will I ever have a chance at having a relationship, I’m the only person in my family who’s never had a chance and I’m having to watch others gain relationships all the time. All I can do is hope someone will give me a chance one day.