• Replies 13 replies
  • Subscribers 82 subscribers
  • Views 2744 views
  • Users 0 members are here
Options
Related
Hints and tips
  • To quote someone's message, first select/highlight the relevant text, and then use the Quote button that appears
  • To "mention" someone, type @ followed by the start of the forum name, and choose from the list; that person will get a notification of being mentioned

Executive function struggle

NAS75685

Hi, I’m 40yo F, I’m on a waiting list for my diagnosis but it’s 18 months+ So at the moment in limbo formally. I’m sure I’m autistic, always been sure only now felt brave and supported enough to start the diagnostic process. Anyway, at the moment I’m really struggling with housekeeping demands, lockdown has taken a toll, and long story short I’ve got an overwhelming amount of sorting/cleaning/clearing etc. to the point where my letting agency is threatening legal action. What really gets to me is that I know they are right and I do try to the point of breakdown, whenever I attempt a task I get sidetracked or so focused on the details that even after a long time doing it not much gets done “globally” but I’m exhausted. Wishing the last month as well my car broke down, as did washing machine and vacuum cleaner. I’m scared, depressed and overwhelmed. I do not have any formal support in place at the moment I’ve started looking for  a cleaning service to help out, but it’s tricky to find one I can trust. I am doing ok in some other areas like in my job or uni. I feel like I should be able to just sort it out, I love sorting a order, just this all feels like too much. I feel like the shittiest human on this planet, and have no idea how to stay afloat. Does anyone have any suggestions, willing to try anything :( thanks for reading 

Parents

  • Perhaps there's a hoarding cleaning service that would work with you, ask you questions about what you want to keep, and what you want to donate or throw away. 

    I mean cleaning is a thing that many people struggle to do, including myself, because like you said it can be overwhelming. My advice if you're cleaning by yourself, is to take an area the size of a box, and organize that area, and like puzzle, many pieces make the whole picture.

    There's always a grieving process I go through when throwing things away, and I've just accepted that I will get sad about it. Other people don't have such a sentimental attachment to objects and can just throw them away easily, but I have this attachment. I've learned that if my goal is to clean, then I must work my way through it in order to clean. 

    And before I buy something to take home, I now try to think of where it can be placed inside my home first, and if I am going to use it immediately, and what it's going to be used for. This helps me from splurging on things I like, to realize that once I get home there's no room for it, so it gets tucked in the corner and forgotten about.

  • in reply to Hippopotomonstrosesquippedaliophobia

    I like the puzzle idea, will try to reframe that way, rather than thinking I’ve got to do it all at once!

Reply Children
No Data