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Executive function struggle

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Hi, I’m 40yo F, I’m on a waiting list for my diagnosis but it’s 18 months+ So at the moment in limbo formally. I’m sure I’m autistic, always been sure only now felt brave and supported enough to start the diagnostic process. Anyway, at the moment I’m really struggling with housekeeping demands, lockdown has taken a toll, and long story short I’ve got an overwhelming amount of sorting/cleaning/clearing etc. to the point where my letting agency is threatening legal action. What really gets to me is that I know they are right and I do try to the point of breakdown, whenever I attempt a task I get sidetracked or so focused on the details that even after a long time doing it not much gets done “globally” but I’m exhausted. Wishing the last month as well my car broke down, as did washing machine and vacuum cleaner. I’m scared, depressed and overwhelmed. I do not have any formal support in place at the moment I’ve started looking for  a cleaning service to help out, but it’s tricky to find one I can trust. I am doing ok in some other areas like in my job or uni. I feel like I should be able to just sort it out, I love sorting a order, just this all feels like too much. I feel like the shittiest human on this planet, and have no idea how to stay afloat. Does anyone have any suggestions, willing to try anything :( thanks for reading 

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  • It's difficult isn't it.. I struggle to get motivated and leave jobs half finished. It can be overwhelming when you don't know where to start. Too many possessions give me  anxiety but I still have too much stuff. Some suggestions. ..tackle one area at a time....ask friends and family to help....throw something away if you haven't used it for 12 months.....put music on while you tidy....be realstic about what you can do and when...visualise what it'll look like and how you'll feel when it's finished....

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  • It's difficult isn't it.. I struggle to get motivated and leave jobs half finished. It can be overwhelming when you don't know where to start. Too many possessions give me  anxiety but I still have too much stuff. Some suggestions. ..tackle one area at a time....ask friends and family to help....throw something away if you haven't used it for 12 months.....put music on while you tidy....be realstic about what you can do and when...visualise what it'll look like and how you'll feel when it's finished....

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    Hopefully some nice power music will help, friends and family not an option but will definitely try small area at a time and power through. It’s just really so disheartening when I keep beating myself up and feeling even more stressed and overwhelmed. Like I know what to do and why, just really flip with the how, so annoying, thanks for the suggestions x