Need advice

So it ain’t easy for me to write this because I used to convince myself I was fine but long story short I’m 30 years old and for the past 10 years I have avoided going outside a even as a teen I didn’t socialise my mum just used to put it as I was shy but I always felt awkward and that I didn’t fit in I haven’t been to the doctors since I was a kid haven’t been to the dentist I quit my job when I was around 20 couldn’t handle the pressure of going in work and being around people I used to stay awake the whole night before my shift because I used to dread going in and socialising with people I haven’t seen any of my family in years because I can’t bear to face them not because anything I have done or they have done  I just feel like all eyes would be on me if I ever have to speak to anyone I avoid looking them in the face since I quit my job 10 years ago I literally haven’t had a life obviously don’t work because I don’t like going out and find it hard to interact with my family members never mind people I don’t know as I became less sociable and withdrawn from the world my mum used to worry I was on drugs used to cause arguments in the end she kicked me out because I was unable to just tell her wot was really going on and that I needed help was easier to let her think that I don’t claim any benefits because I don’t want to deal with people I don’t know plus I don’t like the idea of not being able to take care of myself which at the minute I can’t if it wasn’t for one person who has tried there best to help me for the last 10 years I don’t know where I would be I used to deny to anyone I had a problem but now I really want to get help and I just want to try have a normal life and I don’t know who to turn to I don’t have a gp and even if I did I don’t think I could speak to anyone face to face I have missed out on a lot and I need to do something about it

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  • Hey, you can self refer yourself to most mental health teams now, so no GP needed. Google what your area's nhs mental health team is called and try to get in contact (usually over the phone or online form). One beneficial thing from covid is that the therapy offered is now usually over the phone instead of face to face. The first steps are usually the hardest. You'd probably benefit most from CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) as it looks at making positive behavioral changes.

  • Thanks for the reply appreciate it i just wish I would have spoke to someone sooner even my family but I always felt like I needed to show them I was strong and never wanted to burden them with my problems one day I can never forget is when I could have ended this madness I have been living right before my mum kicked me she asked me was everything ok I was 17 I broke down but I just couldn’t tell her and I just became awkward to be around like I said she always thought I was on drugs because I lost a lot of weight because I stopped eating stopped interacting with members of my family became moody maybe aggressive not physically My mum just didn’t understand I even didn’t go to her wedding and she thought it’s because I didn’t care but couldn’t face being in a room with everyone but I never told her anything was up just used to hide away in my room obviously it’s a long time ago I feel stupid writing it but I’ve kept this all to myself basically since the age of 13 

  • this test therefore indicates your are on the spectrum ---- its a good indicator but not conclusion. You need to approach your GP about getting a autism diagnosis. 

    use this score as evidence + a list of any autism traits you have + list of close blood relatives that have autism/adhd in your family

  • I forgot to mention i am a male 

  • So I done the test it said 37 out of 50 

  • yes a an adult it is much harder ---- but but as a adult you have the confidence to do something. So it is quite common for people to pass into adulthood diagnosed

    what you can do is an online test to see what u score. The link below takes u to one such test. let me know if u are female as the below test would be less sensitive to female traits.

    https://psychology-tools.com/test/autism-spectrum-quotient

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  • With a friend my friend don’t mind but I can’t stay here for ever like I said it feels like I don’t even exist but that’s why I’ve had enough and looking to get help but it’s easier to say than to actually do it my own fault really because when I was younger I should have told someone would have been easier to get help then but as an adult I just feel people won’t really understand that much 

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  • With a friend my friend don’t mind but I can’t stay here for ever like I said it feels like I don’t even exist but that’s why I’ve had enough and looking to get help but it’s easier to say than to actually do it my own fault really because when I was younger I should have told someone would have been easier to get help then but as an adult I just feel people won’t really understand that much 

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