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My son and money

NAS75646

My son has always had problems managing his money and often finding himself in debt. When he goes into shutdown he just spends relentlessly without realising the consequences. Then becomes very depressed because he can’t afford to do anything. We have bailed him out to save him losing his job many times, how many times do we do this?

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  • Why not make the money conditional on getting money management counciling 

  • in reply to Peter

    Thank you Peter that’s a very good idea, I will certainly try it. He has gone into shutdown again and blocked us on wats app, it’s so hard to know wat to do when he does this. Do we try snd contact him or leave him to come out of it. The reason he blocked us was because he said he had bought a motorbike because he wants danger in his life! Also I know he can’t afford it and so I told him wat a bad idea it was. He’s 30 now snd since the breskdown of his relationship he has become much worse and whereas he used to talk to me a lot he doesn’t speak much now, it’s heartbreaking when we have done so much for him to try and improve his life and it upsets me every day. 

  • in reply to NAS75646

    I can relate. Loneliness is hard and autistic people, I feel, often battle with feeling old before our time. So maybe a bit of danger in his life would do him good. Maybe he needs a 'midlife crisis' like escape right now. Just preferably one he can afford.

  • in reply to Peter

    Thanks Peter, he is very lonely, I bought him a kitten which he loves and it’s something for him to look after and care for. He loves to worry me for some reason and seems to resent my husband and I but I’m not sure why. 

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