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Ashamed/coming to terms with my diagnosis

Ladybird

I know it was mentioned here somewhere before that it’s not a good idea to tell people about being diagnosed with autism.

But being diagnosed and not talk about it feels like I have some dirty secret. Something I shouldn’t tell anyone. It feels like something shameful, something I should hide from other people because they won’t like me if I tell them. 

Feels like something to be ashamed of. 

How to accept myself and not be ashamed of myself if I hide so much about myself. I’ve never been open about my depression and I hid my suicidal thoughts (because I was ashamed of them). And now I’m hiding autism. And while depression it’s something that can come and go so it’s not permanent and I could use this as an excuse for not telling anyone (because I’ll get better soon anyway so why bother and worry someone), autism is not. It’s not something temporary. I won’t get better. 

And it feels like some dirty secret. 

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  • I think you have to be comfortable with yourself and particularly yourself as an autistic person, before you can tell other people. Otherwise you end up almost apologising to people for being you, which isn’t right and they will treat you accordingly.

    There are a number of really positive people on YouTube, talking about their positive experience with autism. I like yo Samdy Sam and Aspergers from the inside. There are also quite a few big names celebrities who are diagnosed. Notably Anthony Hopkins, in his 70’s.

    I guess what I’m suggesting is fill yourself with the positive aspects of diagnosis and then tell people how cool it can be.

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  • I think you have to be comfortable with yourself and particularly yourself as an autistic person, before you can tell other people. Otherwise you end up almost apologising to people for being you, which isn’t right and they will treat you accordingly.

    There are a number of really positive people on YouTube, talking about their positive experience with autism. I like yo Samdy Sam and Aspergers from the inside. There are also quite a few big names celebrities who are diagnosed. Notably Anthony Hopkins, in his 70’s.

    I guess what I’m suggesting is fill yourself with the positive aspects of diagnosis and then tell people how cool it can be.

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