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Ashamed/coming to terms with my diagnosis

Ladybird

I know it was mentioned here somewhere before that it’s not a good idea to tell people about being diagnosed with autism.

But being diagnosed and not talk about it feels like I have some dirty secret. Something I shouldn’t tell anyone. It feels like something shameful, something I should hide from other people because they won’t like me if I tell them. 

Feels like something to be ashamed of. 

How to accept myself and not be ashamed of myself if I hide so much about myself. I’ve never been open about my depression and I hid my suicidal thoughts (because I was ashamed of them). And now I’m hiding autism. And while depression it’s something that can come and go so it’s not permanent and I could use this as an excuse for not telling anyone (because I’ll get better soon anyway so why bother and worry someone), autism is not. It’s not something temporary. I won’t get better. 

And it feels like some dirty secret. 

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  • I understand your hesitancy, but in my experience, the people I choose to spend my time with either already knew that I was neuro-divergent or it just didn't matter to them. They liked me because I was me. Just like people around you, like you for being you.

    Try to think of it not as a label, but more of a part of your persona that has always been dimly illuminated... it's always been there, but now it's just clearer to read.

    Don't be ashamed of it, all it means is that you're wired differently to other people, thats all Slight smile

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  • I understand your hesitancy, but in my experience, the people I choose to spend my time with either already knew that I was neuro-divergent or it just didn't matter to them. They liked me because I was me. Just like people around you, like you for being you.

    Try to think of it not as a label, but more of a part of your persona that has always been dimly illuminated... it's always been there, but now it's just clearer to read.

    Don't be ashamed of it, all it means is that you're wired differently to other people, thats all Slight smile

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