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Ashamed/coming to terms with my diagnosis

Ladybird

I know it was mentioned here somewhere before that it’s not a good idea to tell people about being diagnosed with autism.

But being diagnosed and not talk about it feels like I have some dirty secret. Something I shouldn’t tell anyone. It feels like something shameful, something I should hide from other people because they won’t like me if I tell them. 

Feels like something to be ashamed of. 

How to accept myself and not be ashamed of myself if I hide so much about myself. I’ve never been open about my depression and I hid my suicidal thoughts (because I was ashamed of them). And now I’m hiding autism. And while depression it’s something that can come and go so it’s not permanent and I could use this as an excuse for not telling anyone (because I’ll get better soon anyway so why bother and worry someone), autism is not. It’s not something temporary. I won’t get better. 

And it feels like some dirty secret. 

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  • Ladybird,

    Autism is nothing to be ashamed of, there’s positive things about autism as well as all the difficulties with the world designed in a way unsuitable for not just autistic, but all people classified as disabled. Our world is inherently ableist, autistic people can be perceived as “differently-abled” people as we have abilities nonexistent in non-autistic people because of the variation in our neurological development. 

    It helps to look at the positive aspects instead of dwelling on difficulties and put the positive aspects to use. Autistic brains are bottom to top thinkers with an enhanced consistency in logical, analytical and detailed thinking while non-autistic people lack all of that because non-autistic brains are top to bottom thinkers and have the tendency to ignore the details.

    In autism, they tends to be an up for every down, autism can be described as both a blessing and a curse depending on the situation or task.

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  • Ladybird,

    Autism is nothing to be ashamed of, there’s positive things about autism as well as all the difficulties with the world designed in a way unsuitable for not just autistic, but all people classified as disabled. Our world is inherently ableist, autistic people can be perceived as “differently-abled” people as we have abilities nonexistent in non-autistic people because of the variation in our neurological development. 

    It helps to look at the positive aspects instead of dwelling on difficulties and put the positive aspects to use. Autistic brains are bottom to top thinkers with an enhanced consistency in logical, analytical and detailed thinking while non-autistic people lack all of that because non-autistic brains are top to bottom thinkers and have the tendency to ignore the details.

    In autism, they tends to be an up for every down, autism can be described as both a blessing and a curse depending on the situation or task.

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