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Ashamed/coming to terms with my diagnosis

Ladybird

I know it was mentioned here somewhere before that it’s not a good idea to tell people about being diagnosed with autism.

But being diagnosed and not talk about it feels like I have some dirty secret. Something I shouldn’t tell anyone. It feels like something shameful, something I should hide from other people because they won’t like me if I tell them. 

Feels like something to be ashamed of. 

How to accept myself and not be ashamed of myself if I hide so much about myself. I’ve never been open about my depression and I hid my suicidal thoughts (because I was ashamed of them). And now I’m hiding autism. And while depression it’s something that can come and go so it’s not permanent and I could use this as an excuse for not telling anyone (because I’ll get better soon anyway so why bother and worry someone), autism is not. It’s not something temporary. I won’t get better. 

And it feels like some dirty secret. 

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  • Hey Ladybird, I just read your message and I just wanted to say I totally understand. I am exactly the same as you. Im still waiting for my official diagnoiss but when I found out I was autistic it was so hard to accept. Like you Ive always struggled with depression and I thought it was just a phase that would eventually pass. Finding out it wasnt and that I was actually autistic and it was for life is something I have struggled so hard to accept and I dont know who to tell

    I just want you to know that you are not alone and that you are worth accepting. You have nothing to be ashamed of, you were made this way and none of it is your fault. Autism is not a dirty secret, all us autistic people are unique and amazing in our own individual way and if the rest of the world was like us it would be a nicer place! Its not a dirty secret, its something to be proud of because you finally know who you are and thats what matters

    Tell the people you trust and the rest of them arnt worth telling if you dont want to

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  • Hey Ladybird, I just read your message and I just wanted to say I totally understand. I am exactly the same as you. Im still waiting for my official diagnoiss but when I found out I was autistic it was so hard to accept. Like you Ive always struggled with depression and I thought it was just a phase that would eventually pass. Finding out it wasnt and that I was actually autistic and it was for life is something I have struggled so hard to accept and I dont know who to tell

    I just want you to know that you are not alone and that you are worth accepting. You have nothing to be ashamed of, you were made this way and none of it is your fault. Autism is not a dirty secret, all us autistic people are unique and amazing in our own individual way and if the rest of the world was like us it would be a nicer place! Its not a dirty secret, its something to be proud of because you finally know who you are and thats what matters

    Tell the people you trust and the rest of them arnt worth telling if you dont want to

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