How to fit in ?

Hello, Mr Anonymous.

I'm certain that the very instant you start being caring and humane towards yourself, you will no longer feel the need to try to fit in anywhere. If you treat yourself with the dignity and respect any human being deserves, you'll know that you fit in quite well just as you are. As yourself. And any attempt at being someone else will have the opposite effect. And leave you unhappy and stressed.

Think about it objectively, if you were to make a friend or family member 'fit' in by shaming them into changing their behaviour, and/or mimicking everyone else around them, it would feel like abuse—an act of bulling. Why would we want to try to force another human being to be something they are not? It's actually abuse. And you've been abusing yourself!

Strop trying to fit in. Start loving yourself and treating yourself with kindness, compassion and dignity and that will set the standard for everyone else who comes into contact with you.  If you are genuinely a caring and humane person, then it's time you began to be caring and humane towards yourself.

Remember: Those that mind, don't matter. Those that matter, don't mind.

Thanks, Tassimo. It's a great piece of advise. If I don't try to become 'normal', I'll be kicked out. At least that's my experience of past 35 years. 

I'll try again. Thanks for coming out to help. 

Best (Vibh - She/Her)

Thanks, Tassimo. It's a great piece of advise. If I don't try to become 'normal', I'll be kicked out. At least that's my experience of past 35 years. 

I'll try again. Thanks for coming out to help. 

Best (Vibh - She/Her)

And don't forget about reasonable adjustments an employer should make to to remove or reduce the effect of an employee's disability so they can do their job/ a job applicant's disability when applying for a job.