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Ghost

Hi, I live in Wales, UK

I'm going through a hard time at the moment and often fantasise about self harming again to release my emotional tension;
I can't even watch a TV episode without breaking down, I'm filled with so much anxiety and frustration

After calling in sick on and off for a few weeks.  I just accepted another 3 months sick leave from my job. I have a 0 hour contract and told them that I wont be back for a long time so they'd probably be better off finding a replacement. So I've probably just lost yet another job..

I can't hold down a part time job for any longer then 3/4 months without melting down, how am I ever supposed to become indipendant and rent or buy my own home? Am I destined to live with my mother for ever?! I turned 32 this year, I hate myself for not being able to cope

I've not been in a relationship for over 3 years. I'm afraid of even having a date, I think they'd be better off finding someone else. But I'm so lonely. I push people I'm attracted to away because I just go blank when I'm around them, Think they could do better, can't cope with the stress or potential emotional rollercoaster of a relationship

I feel so alienated by the world. nothing makes sense.

I only got told that I might have ASD about a month ago and after reading about it and listen to other peoples stories did it really click and I cried for about 20 minutes, realising that I will never have the life I want. realising that I will always struggle

I've suffered from neglect and abuse when I was younger.

I've been really suicidal in the past and self harmed and am worried that I might end up going down that route again.

I am trying to get support. But it's so hard, not really knowing how & having to talk about everything so openly. Stuff I've never told anyone
It's so hard talking to people. Once you say something you can't take it back...

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  • Have you asked the DWP for a work capability assessment? It may be that you are unable to work due to ill health. Also, are you getting any mental health support privately or from the NHS?

  • in reply to ☕Tassimo ☕

    I got sent for an assessment where she recommended I might have ASD. But there was no follow up support. I've filled out a form to be on a 3+ year waiting list for an official diagnosis and got told I should apply for PIP and talk to some local housing people (Not done that one yet). But the form requires to be so forthcoming with information and is really tough for me to do.  I'm getting a phone call support in a week from Citizen's Advice to help me fill it out correctly which I've been really nervous about and then there's the in person assessment.

    I don't want to do any of it. I just want hide. I have fantasies of just getting in my car and running away. I know that none of that is going to help so I've been pushing myself.

    I'm under pressure from my mother to move out and I do think having my own space could help a lot but I struggle with sounds/ Misophonia and am really worried I'll be place somewhere that's harder, like a flat or next to loud neighbors. And then I think I would struggle with bills and the cost of everything is SO HIGH I would be in a constant fear...

    I've been talking to an advanced practitioner at my local health center. She's given me the time off work. The time has been really helpful. But I'm so uncertain about my future. Will I ever be able to hold down a job? Or will I just keep bouncing around? I wanted to be a games artist it was my one big dream. I even got a degree. But the idea of working in a busy office terrifies me and I'm not even that good at it...  I try and work from but I couldn't make enough money and I kept giving myself too much time off and I got overwhelmed by everything

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    Ghost said:
    I should apply for PIP

    Yes, that would be a good idea. The sooner you do, the better. Just make sure you take an advocate with you to the assessment. Don't go alone.

    Ghost said:
    I got sent for an assessment where she recommended I might have ASD.


    That doesn't sound like a Work Capability Assessment (WCA) because a WCA is not a diagnostic assessment.  It is an assessment to see if you are capable of looking for work or not, and if you are, what level of support they need to provide you to find (and stay in work). Are you sure you have attended a WCA? A WCA is usually triggered automatically after a long period on the sick, but you can also ask for one yourself. Just make sure you take an advocate with you to the assessment. Don't go alone.

    It's good that you are having a call with the CAB. You could ask them about getting a WCA and they will know what to do. 

    I can't emphasise the importance of finding a local mental health charity near to you, and getting the support of one of their advocates. They will be invaluable when it comes to applying for Universal Credit and PIP.

    They can even help with your dealings with Housing. What I would say is not to do everything all at once. It could overwhelm you. 

  • in reply to ☕Tassimo ☕

    Sorry. This assessment I was talking about was in response to the getting mental health support from the NHS

    I don't think I've done a work capability assessment.  I've only just started taking sick leave. I've been off for one month now.  I just used to be on job seekers. I was trying to work from home as an artist but I couldn't make enough money so they said I needed to find work. I was there for four months. The first two months were 1 or 2 days a week.


    ☕Tassimo ☕ said:
    It's good that you are having a call with the CAB. You could ask them about getting a WCA and they will know what to do.

    I will. Thank you. I didn't know of this

    ☕Tassimo ☕ said:
    I can't emphasise the importance of finding a local mental health charity near to you, and getting the support of one of their advocates. They will be invaluable when it comes to applying for Universal Credit and PIP.

    Would this be better then taking someone I know?. I know I'll find it difficult talking to someone new.  Do they come into the assessment?


    ☕Tassimo ☕ said:
    They can even help with your dealings with Housing. What I would say is not to do everything all at once. It could overwhelm you.

    Yeah, I'm only trying to do PIP at the moment and It's taking a lot out of me.

    Is it the local charity that can help me with housing?

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  • in reply to ☕Tassimo ☕

    Sorry. This assessment I was talking about was in response to the getting mental health support from the NHS

    I don't think I've done a work capability assessment.  I've only just started taking sick leave. I've been off for one month now.  I just used to be on job seekers. I was trying to work from home as an artist but I couldn't make enough money so they said I needed to find work. I was there for four months. The first two months were 1 or 2 days a week.


    ☕Tassimo ☕ said:
    It's good that you are having a call with the CAB. You could ask them about getting a WCA and they will know what to do.

    I will. Thank you. I didn't know of this

    ☕Tassimo ☕ said:
    I can't emphasise the importance of finding a local mental health charity near to you, and getting the support of one of their advocates. They will be invaluable when it comes to applying for Universal Credit and PIP.

    Would this be better then taking someone I know?. I know I'll find it difficult talking to someone new.  Do they come into the assessment?


    ☕Tassimo ☕ said:
    They can even help with your dealings with Housing. What I would say is not to do everything all at once. It could overwhelm you.

    Yeah, I'm only trying to do PIP at the moment and It's taking a lot out of me.

    Is it the local charity that can help me with housing?

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