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What I'm I suppose to do with my life?...getting more depressed every day

AmyLR94

My name is Amy and I am 26 years old. Where do I start...I have been on the sick for 4/5 years or more and I am at that stage (or have been for a few years) that I felt like I'm not doing anything in my life. Women my age have successful careers, driving, have families etc but I am still living with my parents (loving it still xD).

For the past three months I have been volunteering at an Animal Rescue place helping with the hedgehogs (which I love), I would really love to have a career in animal rescue but because of my age and that I don't drive there aren't any courses close to me who accept me or of course the courses cost a lot. It's the same with apprenticeships too, there is tons of childcare but nothing to do with animals. I would of done animal care when I was younger but when I went to an open evening they asked "do you own a pet?" when I answered no they said "you can't do the course". So then I went on to do childcare for 3 years and passed but now I feel that if I just ignored those women and just applied I wouldn't be in this situation and if I wanted to do childcare I could easily get an apprenticeship.

So now I am stuck in my life, feeling more depressed about it and putting tons of weight on because I emotionally eat. I tried looking for anything I could from home but there wasn't anything I could do. When I got diagnosed in 2017 it was the best thing because I now understood why I was different. The process was really in depth and that's what I wanted. However, at the end they just gave us leaflets and left us on my own so since then I have been struggling to find any help or support for me and my parents.I don't want to hit age 30 and not done anything with my life or have anything to look forward too. Its especially hard with this pandemic going on. 

I spend my days (when I'm not volunteering that is) by reading, playing games on my laptop with online friends, watching tv and sometimes colouring. Nothing really exciting to be honest, I am a creative person and work better hands on that's why I feel an apprenticeship is good for me. At the moment I don't know who talk to, I talk to my parents all the time about anything and they know how I feel I just thought maybe posting on this community might help.

Thanks for reading, and I hope you enjoy the rest of your day x

P.S. I have had suicidal thoughts in the past and that's what got me to be put on depression tablets

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  • Hi Amy.

    A lot of people (me included) have times in our lives when we feel this way.  In other words, you are not alone in feeling like this.

    Instead of tormenting yourself with thoughts with the many ways you think you have failed, spend time each day reminding yourself of all the things that are right in your life. A few minutes each day having some nice self-talk about the good things about you can drastically change our we perceive ourselves and our lives.

    YES, MANY women your age DO have successful careers, are driving, have families, BUT MANY women your age DON'T have successful careers, don't drive, and don't have families.  AND REMEMBER those women with successful careers are ALSO stressed out by the demands of their jobs, are struggling to make their car payments to may be in deeply UNHAPPY relationships and/or have problems with their children.  

    No one's life is ever as perfect as we imagine it to be. You may find that those women you think are having such wonderful lives are dreaming of a life like yours without a job, no driving responsibilities and back at home with their parents.

    Keep smiling.

  • in reply to ☕Tassimo ☕

    Hi Tassimo, 

    Thank you for reply to my post. I use to have this diary where I would write three things I grateful for each day, eventually I gave up because I ran out of things I am grateful for and plus it became more of a chore.

    I know no one is perfect but it’s just how I feel, I try my hardest to stay positive and be happy but it’s very difficult. It’s more difficult when my younger brother has a career and relationship of 4/5 years and my longest was one month for a relationship. I know I should never compare but it’s how my brain works x

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  • in reply to ☕Tassimo ☕

    Hi Tassimo, 

    Thank you for reply to my post. I use to have this diary where I would write three things I grateful for each day, eventually I gave up because I ran out of things I am grateful for and plus it became more of a chore.

    I know no one is perfect but it’s just how I feel, I try my hardest to stay positive and be happy but it’s very difficult. It’s more difficult when my younger brother has a career and relationship of 4/5 years and my longest was one month for a relationship. I know I should never compare but it’s how my brain works x

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