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What I'm I suppose to do with my life?...getting more depressed every day

AmyLR94

My name is Amy and I am 26 years old. Where do I start...I have been on the sick for 4/5 years or more and I am at that stage (or have been for a few years) that I felt like I'm not doing anything in my life. Women my age have successful careers, driving, have families etc but I am still living with my parents (loving it still xD).

For the past three months I have been volunteering at an Animal Rescue place helping with the hedgehogs (which I love), I would really love to have a career in animal rescue but because of my age and that I don't drive there aren't any courses close to me who accept me or of course the courses cost a lot. It's the same with apprenticeships too, there is tons of childcare but nothing to do with animals. I would of done animal care when I was younger but when I went to an open evening they asked "do you own a pet?" when I answered no they said "you can't do the course". So then I went on to do childcare for 3 years and passed but now I feel that if I just ignored those women and just applied I wouldn't be in this situation and if I wanted to do childcare I could easily get an apprenticeship.

So now I am stuck in my life, feeling more depressed about it and putting tons of weight on because I emotionally eat. I tried looking for anything I could from home but there wasn't anything I could do. When I got diagnosed in 2017 it was the best thing because I now understood why I was different. The process was really in depth and that's what I wanted. However, at the end they just gave us leaflets and left us on my own so since then I have been struggling to find any help or support for me and my parents.I don't want to hit age 30 and not done anything with my life or have anything to look forward too. Its especially hard with this pandemic going on. 

I spend my days (when I'm not volunteering that is) by reading, playing games on my laptop with online friends, watching tv and sometimes colouring. Nothing really exciting to be honest, I am a creative person and work better hands on that's why I feel an apprenticeship is good for me. At the moment I don't know who talk to, I talk to my parents all the time about anything and they know how I feel I just thought maybe posting on this community might help.

Thanks for reading, and I hope you enjoy the rest of your day x

P.S. I have had suicidal thoughts in the past and that's what got me to be put on depression tablets

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  • You have animal handling experience, so could you not use that to get a job somewhere? Even at a pet store or somewhere of that nature? I know a pet shop that had asked me if I owned a pet, I said no, so they didn't hire me. But if they asked you, you could say "Sort of. I have experience in handling animals at an animal rescue agency." 

    And then once you earned some money, you could save up for an animal care course, and then you can get your drivers licence and a car or something. 

    Also, do not compare your life with other people's lives. They are not on the same path as you are. Sometimes random strangers will pour their problems onto me (the life of an INFJ) and I can tell you that even if people seem to have their life in order on the surface, there's always some kind of deficit in some other area of their life that they are secretly struggling with. 

    When I was unemployed for a number of years, I filled in the gap by volunteering too. I had a few people to talk to at least, and I was learning skills along the way so I felt accompishment. I used that experience to get a job with a modest salary, and I'm using the money to learn courses, so that I can carve a path for myself. 

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  • You have animal handling experience, so could you not use that to get a job somewhere? Even at a pet store or somewhere of that nature? I know a pet shop that had asked me if I owned a pet, I said no, so they didn't hire me. But if they asked you, you could say "Sort of. I have experience in handling animals at an animal rescue agency." 

    And then once you earned some money, you could save up for an animal care course, and then you can get your drivers licence and a car or something. 

    Also, do not compare your life with other people's lives. They are not on the same path as you are. Sometimes random strangers will pour their problems onto me (the life of an INFJ) and I can tell you that even if people seem to have their life in order on the surface, there's always some kind of deficit in some other area of their life that they are secretly struggling with. 

    When I was unemployed for a number of years, I filled in the gap by volunteering too. I had a few people to talk to at least, and I was learning skills along the way so I felt accompishment. I used that experience to get a job with a modest salary, and I'm using the money to learn courses, so that I can carve a path for myself. 

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