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What I'm I suppose to do with my life?...getting more depressed every day

AmyLR94

My name is Amy and I am 26 years old. Where do I start...I have been on the sick for 4/5 years or more and I am at that stage (or have been for a few years) that I felt like I'm not doing anything in my life. Women my age have successful careers, driving, have families etc but I am still living with my parents (loving it still xD).

For the past three months I have been volunteering at an Animal Rescue place helping with the hedgehogs (which I love), I would really love to have a career in animal rescue but because of my age and that I don't drive there aren't any courses close to me who accept me or of course the courses cost a lot. It's the same with apprenticeships too, there is tons of childcare but nothing to do with animals. I would of done animal care when I was younger but when I went to an open evening they asked "do you own a pet?" when I answered no they said "you can't do the course". So then I went on to do childcare for 3 years and passed but now I feel that if I just ignored those women and just applied I wouldn't be in this situation and if I wanted to do childcare I could easily get an apprenticeship.

So now I am stuck in my life, feeling more depressed about it and putting tons of weight on because I emotionally eat. I tried looking for anything I could from home but there wasn't anything I could do. When I got diagnosed in 2017 it was the best thing because I now understood why I was different. The process was really in depth and that's what I wanted. However, at the end they just gave us leaflets and left us on my own so since then I have been struggling to find any help or support for me and my parents.I don't want to hit age 30 and not done anything with my life or have anything to look forward too. Its especially hard with this pandemic going on. 

I spend my days (when I'm not volunteering that is) by reading, playing games on my laptop with online friends, watching tv and sometimes colouring. Nothing really exciting to be honest, I am a creative person and work better hands on that's why I feel an apprenticeship is good for me. At the moment I don't know who talk to, I talk to my parents all the time about anything and they know how I feel I just thought maybe posting on this community might help.

Thanks for reading, and I hope you enjoy the rest of your day x

P.S. I have had suicidal thoughts in the past and that's what got me to be put on depression tablets

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  • Oh my dear this is not what you want to hear but I could be so much worse. Imagine you didn’t have online friends wanting to spend time with you. Or parents you could talk to. Imagine your health was starting to fray around the ages as you collect little health problems that don’t seem to go away.

    i don’t mean to scare you and I certainly don’t mean to belittle your issues. I want to spare you from that fate I described.

    so I have some suggestions

    1. get a job (or apprenticeship). Yes I know that’s actually very hard. And because it is so hard you can’t afford to be too picky. Tbh any job you can do that doesn’t compromise your physical or mental health take it. You’ll never get the career you want with out money to invest in yourself and that means work.

    2. As soon as you have the money learn to drive and get a vehicle. Anything even a moped. You’ll have so many more options in life when you’re not confined to one town and the time the last bus leaves.

    3. Find a club to join. Anything you can find genuine enthusiasm for. Something with plenty of regular IRL social events. Comit to going regularly, even if it’s noisy and in a crowded place.

    4. If you want family / romance (your post suggested you might) and you’re not very comfortable with sex and sexuality then you need to develop a tolerance if not an actual desire for it. Your future significant other is very unlikely to be asexual. You need to get to the point that when people you like flirt with you you can flirt back.

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  • Oh my dear this is not what you want to hear but I could be so much worse. Imagine you didn’t have online friends wanting to spend time with you. Or parents you could talk to. Imagine your health was starting to fray around the ages as you collect little health problems that don’t seem to go away.

    i don’t mean to scare you and I certainly don’t mean to belittle your issues. I want to spare you from that fate I described.

    so I have some suggestions

    1. get a job (or apprenticeship). Yes I know that’s actually very hard. And because it is so hard you can’t afford to be too picky. Tbh any job you can do that doesn’t compromise your physical or mental health take it. You’ll never get the career you want with out money to invest in yourself and that means work.

    2. As soon as you have the money learn to drive and get a vehicle. Anything even a moped. You’ll have so many more options in life when you’re not confined to one town and the time the last bus leaves.

    3. Find a club to join. Anything you can find genuine enthusiasm for. Something with plenty of regular IRL social events. Comit to going regularly, even if it’s noisy and in a crowded place.

    4. If you want family / romance (your post suggested you might) and you’re not very comfortable with sex and sexuality then you need to develop a tolerance if not an actual desire for it. Your future significant other is very unlikely to be asexual. You need to get to the point that when people you like flirt with you you can flirt back.

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  • in reply to Peter

    Hi Peter,

    Thank you for replying to my post and thank you for the suggestions Blush

    1. I look everyday for a part time job or apprenticeships but I’m either not interested in that kind of work or it’s too far away.

    2. I have been revising for my driving for over a year now. I haven’t heard from my driving instructor for when I can do my theory test all he keeps saying is they are still backed up or he hasn’t contacted people for a reader for me.

    3. I tried joining a knitting group and few years ago but it was full of grannies lol Joy and I tried a colouring group too but it was the same conclusion 

    4. I’m unsure why you were talking about asexual as that’s not what I am. I am straight and I am interested in everything just…according to someone I know they said I have my walls up really high and that with my autism etc I feel like I’m not right for anyone. And I do like flirting too x