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Trust

The Riddler

I have been thinking about this for a whil now and spent some time noticing how I interact with a variety of people. What I have come to realise more and more is, fundamentally I just don't trust other people! 

With people I've just met I don't trust they will act appropriately, be kind, considerate, non-selfish, etc, etc. Then with people I do know (and especially since getting diagnosed) I just don't believe they are being honest towards me, not judging me behind my back, and ultimately won't let me down and just turn out to be fake. 

I hate to say it, but even with my partner to some extent. It wouldn't entirely surprise me if she said she'd met someone else because I was too much to deal with! Even though at the moment she says she's not bothered about me being Aspie.

What are other people's thoughts, feelings, experience with Trust. Is it something that comes easily or something you struggle with?

Parents

  • I have always struggled to trust people, didn't realise it was an autistic thing though, I always thought it was linked to the trauma I suffered as a young child. 

    I understand though. it takes me ages to trust people and then even when I trust them I go through phases of thinking they don't actually like me and are just being nice.

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  • I have always struggled to trust people, didn't realise it was an autistic thing though, I always thought it was linked to the trauma I suffered as a young child. 

    I understand though. it takes me ages to trust people and then even when I trust them I go through phases of thinking they don't actually like me and are just being nice.

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  • in reply to piggy1401

    This is something I have been conflicted over. I had an “interesting”!! childhood and that hasn’t made me trusting. I wonder if from an ASD perspective it’s more to do with not really understanding facial expressions, subtle changes in tone of voice and gesticulations. Makes it hard to understand someone’s true intentions.