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Control issues

miaxx

Does anyone else have bad control issues?

For example, I struggle when I am not in control of a conversation. If I am being made fun of, or 'banter' at my expense is happening, I can't deal with it. However I can 'banter' at other's expense. (Never rude, and yes I know, I can give it out but can't take it, and that's a flaw in myself).

I think I can banter about others because I feel in control, but if people are laughing at me I don't have a grip on the conversation and it causes a meltdown.

I also have a very 'masculine' energy in my relationship. I make decisions, I take control, etc. I hate things being done a different way to my own way. It gets to the point where I have to go through with my fiancé, step-by-step instructions on how to make soup for me! He's a grown adult, he knows how, but for some reason I feel as if it has to be done by specific way.

I have a hard time letting others cook for me, clean for me, etc without taking over the job myself just so it's done 'correctly'

Anyone else like this?

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  • its only natural, your cooking one for example. it would be aweful to settle for a shoddy ruined meal when you could have done it right yourself. if someone else cant do it right it makes sense down the line for you to do it. kinda like how you wouldnt let your kid drive your car, theyd crash into a wall so you drive. cooking, you do it yourself or if you make your other half do it he ruins it and you end up with a lame meal and a regret of the knowledge that you could have been eating a delightful meal you did right yourself.

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  • its only natural, your cooking one for example. it would be aweful to settle for a shoddy ruined meal when you could have done it right yourself. if someone else cant do it right it makes sense down the line for you to do it. kinda like how you wouldnt let your kid drive your car, theyd crash into a wall so you drive. cooking, you do it yourself or if you make your other half do it he ruins it and you end up with a lame meal and a regret of the knowledge that you could have been eating a delightful meal you did right yourself.

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