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PLEASE HELP ME

Pathetique

Hello,

I am a HSP and I go to college.
I don't really like college and I don't like my course, Media. My parents said I have to go to Media because I haven't got enough grades to work somewhere for the rest of my life. I really do want to leave college and work somewhere else - like a garden centre. I like spending time outside in nature and that's where I want to be. I've just begun Media and this morning and last night knowing I have to get up for college, I get nervous. I have been to this college for 3 years now (where I was much happier than now) My parents won't let me leave college even though I desperately find jobs that I like to go to work there because I will enjoy it.
I said to my leaders that I am a HSP and I don't like the noise of fire drills because they frighten me. I requested they give me an advance warning before it happens. They said they can't because it is there for an emergency. However, they let me wear headphones in class when working on the computer. It only happens once or twice a year.
I really do feel stressed out about this because I am sensitive to noise and I don't like sudden noises such as fire drills.
If one did occur when I was in the classroom, I'd probably get upset about the noise and overwhelmed by it.
Before, I'd just try to not be myself during those alarms, that means being happy.
It would really cheer me up if I left college and got a job at a garden centre, which I really want to go to work now because I would find it easy for myself.
Please can you help me or give me advice please.
Kindest regards,
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  • Speaking from my own experience if you don’t enjoy your course you’re unlikely to find the motivation to work hard enough to be able to pass it. Do your parents understand that? Are they paying the fees or do you have a student loan? There’s not really any point forcing you to study something you don’t enjoy especially if you’ll never use the qualification in the future. Are you able to get a low hours weekend job at a local garden centre or maybe volunteer at a local wildlife park or zoo for a few hours at the weekends? Then if you are really sure you want to take that direction and they are happy to take you full time then drop out of college?    Shops will also have fire drills though and it will be up to the management whether they are the same time every week or random. There maybe noisy cages rolling around or other equipment too to bear in mind not just fire/theft alarms 

  • in reply to GuybrushThreepwood

    Thank you very much for your reply. I'd just prefer to be working in a garden centre right now because I'd be happier there as college is a living agony for me. My parents can't afford for me to sit at home every day and they payed £100 for the course, and they want me to get the grades for a better job than the garden centre. I'm quite happy with the grades I've got already. I might be able to find a job at the garden centre at the weekend and I will keep looking for jobs that involve nature.

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  • in reply to GuybrushThreepwood

    Thank you very much for your reply. I'd just prefer to be working in a garden centre right now because I'd be happier there as college is a living agony for me. My parents can't afford for me to sit at home every day and they payed £100 for the course, and they want me to get the grades for a better job than the garden centre. I'm quite happy with the grades I've got already. I might be able to find a job at the garden centre at the weekend and I will keep looking for jobs that involve nature.

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