Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello. I made this new thread because there is something that is puzzling me. I don't understand something. Why do my bosses hate me? I have had several bosses that got mad at me and then yell at me. Then there was some that would throw me under the bus. They would come after me and then I would be in trouble. I didn't know what I did to make them upset like this. In my mind I didn't do anything wrong. But they are upset and I am in trouble. Then before they would get mad someone else would tell them something and then they would believe them. Instead of asking me and then finding out what happened. Then for some reason I got fired once because of that but I really quit and they ignored me when I said I quit. Then this one time and it happened just recently I would tell them what happened and then they would go back to doing that thing again where they believe what someone told them and then come after me. I don't know what is going on. I quit the job but they decided to still come after me for posting reviews about the company on the internet. They thought that we were on good terms. I don't know what that means. All I did was quit. How are we on good terms? I gave her a termination letter too. Then she said I was attacking her online but all I did was leave a review. I got a threatening text message saying they would take me to court over a review. Huh? I told my boss to leave me alone and stop texting me because I don't work with her anymore and that is when she threatened court. I was confident and assertive and there was no reason to threaten court. I was not upset. I was firm. I told her to leave me alone because she was being rude for texting me and it wasn't about work it was personal. Then my advocate that helped me get a job because of Autism agreed with the boss that threatened me and then got mad and then yelled at me over email. My advocate took my bosses side. I don't know why because my boss has been horrible to me. Then my advocate in the email said " If you have a problem work it out with her". Huh? There was no problem. But in the past I told her things and she ignored me. I quit. There is nothing to work out anymore. We weren't friends or anything. It was just a business relationship. I am done with the job and she still attacks me and stalks me because I left a review? I don't know what kind of people I am meeting but they are bad because they come after me for no reason. Also I tell people I am confused why they are upset but they just ignore me and keep asking me questions about what I did and why I did something. I didn't do anything. I didn't do anything wrong. This isn't just with customer service jobs this with all the jobs I have had. The bosses seemed to hate me and I don't know why. They get mad and yell at me and try to humiliate me on purpose in front of everyone. People often times ignore what I say. They know I want to be heard but they don't care and continue to ignore me. I had a boss say he didn't care about me. I don't know why he said this. Then he said my name wrong but he said he had a crush on someone in front of my face and he was looking at me. He yelled at me and asked me why I didn't tell him about the call one time. I am not sure why I am being mistreated like that. I don't know what I did. I am very confused about what is going on. Why are they so angry? I was going to tell him but he answered the phone and didn't want to interrupt. I was going to tell him after he got off but then he got mad and then I am confused and didn't know what he was doing. People give me BS all the time and I am sick of it. I am being bullied and I don't know why. This happened after I told them I have Autism. I am very confused. My boss thought it was funny he was mean to me and he wanted me to be scared but I wasn't. I asked him something and then he said remember the time so and so asked me about something. He was talking about me and then I only just asked him at that moment and then he said remember the time after. What the heck? I don't know what is wrong with people. He was mocking me and making fun of me? I don't know what he was doing but it was weird and didn't make sense to me. I feel like people just think I am a joke and the make fun of me. Then they act like I am some weirdo because I wanted to have a job and I am disabled.
No. What your saying is your ego talking and it has nothing to with me. It is far from the truth. You have no clue what I have been through at all. All you care about is being right but your not. Try again.
There is one thing I don't understand about you... Why do you keep changing your user name?
You quite capable of making sweeping judgements about me. Let me guess though. I'm not allowed to defend myself. You're the victim here and you don't want any friends or to identify with anyone else. That way you can keep your halo of martyrdom and your self conception as the most put upon human on earth. You aren't .Everyone here has been through what you've been throughAs you are not looking to make allies in the world. I will cease to communicate with you further.
How do you know I don't? Do you know me? Have you walked a mile in my shoes. No you haven't. It is just your ego talking. Your just accusing me of random things. I don't understand your intentions and that is part of Autism. I also said I have more than one thing wrong with me. No one is understanding that part either. It seems I am a threat to everyone that is why I'm being hated on. If you knew what I been through you would know why I am acting like this but no one does. People on here think they do but that is their ego nothing more. It still seems people are seeing me as a bad person for some reason. I didn't do anything. I don't understand what is happening. I am not sure why people think I'm the troll when they are the ones who are trolling me. I will take what you said into consideration though.
I was trying to help fend of the people who were piling in on you. Now you have rounded on me.You don't have any social skills at all. You need to learn some because then you can learn who your friends are. Otherwise you'll be like General Custer in a last stand rounding on everyone. Even those who are your potential allies.
Ok. It didn't seem like it to me. I am not the one who is a troll. I don't even know how to be one. That doesn't make any sense. Your not telling me why you think I am one though. Your just calling me names. Why do you think I'm a troll?
I was trying to get people to be sensitive in their responses towards you because i didn't like the way people were responding bluntly (even though it could be argued they are on the spectrum and don't know any better).I only have so much time in my day. So i'll let you get on with it.They only thing that's "wrong with me" is having a social conscience when many others don't care about their fellow man/woman.Maybe Robert was right all along and you are a troll?
Yes that does help. It gives me a better picture of why they act the way they act. And say things the way they say things. Yes I do like to improve myself. I am open and accepting to people's feedback but only if it's actually feedback of course. It seems my bosses didn't seem to like me because of Autism though they didn't like how I said and did things because it wasn't how they did it.
That's interesting about Freedoms. It's like Rights and Responsibilities. If you have a Right, you have a Responsibility connected to it.
I'll tell you what I've learned. Non autistic people don't like others pointing out their faults. We think we're correcting incorrect information or helping them improve, but most of them see it as pointing out their faults.
Some people on this site advised me that non autistic people are obsessed with:
1. Covering up their mistakes
2. Trying to get as high a status as they can in the hierarchy by devious means, manipulating others etc.
When you wrote reviews, these bosses probably thought you were pointing out their mistakes and trying to give yourself higher status by doing so. That is what I deduce anyway.
Autistic people however, don't generally mind owning their mistakes and don't care, we like to improve ourselves. And we certainly don't care about hierarchies and statuses.
So it's worth bearing that in mind. I hope it helps.
What do you mean by that? What are your intentions behind what you wrote?
I was never bullied once in my life is more accurate than what I said before. That is why I changed what I wrote. There were misunderstandings on my end about situations. I was jumping to conclusions and making assumptions about things when I shouldn't.
Uh... well... I was being sarcastic.
What you wrote in your original post said "I am being bullied and I don't know why." But here you write "I was never bullied once in my life so I'm not sure where you got that from." So my question is ... which one is it?
Taking jokes literally is a major sign of autism.
Must sleep now because I'm dead.
Why did you take what was said literally? It was a quote from someone else. I didn't come up with it.
Not a fair comment.
I think your posts are a breath of fresh air and worthy of a prize in fictional creative writing.
I've just read your profile.
It is a bit too harsh. I think only 90% of the population should be killed off.
In fact the Covid fiasco was a wasted opportunity. If it was allowed to go unchecked we could have thinned the population of the planet and the survivers would have been better of.
So you troll my posts? You respond accordingly?
I didn't ask anyone for anything. Your so full of yourself. I didn't expect anyone to owe me anything and you people are so wrapped up in your egos. It's pathetic.