Published on 12, July, 2020
I have a real problem with noise at my flat. Before now, noise was not a massive issue, although I have always been fairly sensitive. But the noise is now relentless, particularly because it occurs at NIGHT TIME when I am trying to sleep!!!!!!!. Car noise is constant, and makes me startle and awaken at the smallest sound of an engine. The neighbour plays music that is too loud, and has night-time arguments. Meanwhile, my parents house is peaceful at night - no noise at all. I feel as though I have made a mistake in moving out, because of the noise, but can't tell my parents this because they would be devastated, and would tell me that there is no going back. I could not bear the stress of telling them how I feel. I spend weekends with them, and last night I fell asleep only a few minutes after hitting the pillow, which is rare for me. This shows how tired I must have been. I still feel tired, and have just one more night with them before another sleepless week. I am already anxious, and worry that the long term effects of noise will wreck my health. Why should I have to put up with it???. I hate this noisy world sometimes. I wish the flat was as quiet as home, my home, my parents house, that will always be my true refuge -ie a proper house, not some noisy flat/apartment. I feel angry, upset and homesick.
What is more, this is all my fault because I instigated the move in the name of independence. I know I would have to probably move out sooner or later, but my parents home will always be home for me. I just want to move back, but know that I can't. I did not expect constant noise when before now night time was dead quiet!.
Well, one good that comes out of snow is less noise, from cars and people!.
Thanks, Jon, for showing me I am not alone. I think that it takes one to know one, if you know what I mean. People without Aspergers often don't fully understand, although some very empathetic people at least try. I am in Social Housing, run by a Housing Association. Housing is in very short supply, so I count myself fortunate in this respect. Ironically, however, I moved out of my parents house partly to avoid their noise, and to have some space, but I did not predict that a flat would be far noisier at night-time than my parent's place.
Stuffed, I have considered ear-plugs, but do not consider them to be a long term solution. They are expensive, and can cause ear wax compaction, resulting in ear ache. I would rather find a non invasive solution to the problem. I have tried 'white' noise via You Tube, to block out the noise, but this noise ends up being distracting if is played at night time.
The Imp of the Pe: I stay at my parents three nights of the week anyway, and I need time with them in order to recuperate. The tenancy agreement stipulates that I should spend the majority of nights at my flat, which I do, by just one night!. I spend 4 nights at the flat, 3 with my parents. The tenancy agreement also states that noise should be kept to an absolute minimum after 11pm and before 9am. I keep the agreement, the neighbour does not. Last time she created noise after 11pm, I was banging the walls and slamming doors because I was so angry. I wanted her to realize she was disturbing me. I was trying to sleep, and had put up with a whole hour of noise. I could not take any more, and banging the walls was the only way I could vent my frustration. I felt like screaming.